I've been separated 3 years from the woman I love. We haven't had any contact until last week when I wanted a bit of advice from her regarding my daughter. Bottom line is the issue with my daughter sorted itself out. I told my ex this via text. Anyway she won't stop sending me texts so I told her that she needs to make a decision, either stop sending me messages or send messages with a view to reconciliation. On one hand she says shes married (I know its on the rocks, has been for a while) and not interested then she sends me messages like "I'll see you sooner than you think". I just wanted some input and when I realized that it was getting personal I told her that I was going to back off. I thought I was through this but it seems I'm not. So is there anyone out there gone through long term separation and if so how long did it take for the pain to stop?