A friend of mine lives in a part of town where crime is starting to go up quiet a bit. She's actually been harassed some at her house. Called the cops and all they said was they would note it and "patrol the area more". I've been talking to her about buying a handgun, more specifically a J frame. We went and rented a S&W 640 and shot .38 and .357 through it. She likes the gun a lot but hates the recoil of .357. We didn't shoot any .38+P and I don't have any experience with what the recoil is like. Is .38 enough or should I recommend something else?