A friend may want more with me

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  1. Mugen92GS-R

    Mugen92GS-R New Member

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    Hey vag... lately i've been finding myself on the answering side of things here in the vag, but I have a new situation that I may need your help with.

    I'm in a very healthy / happy relationship, IMO... the best relationship I've ever been in. I also have a very good friend who's a girl. Mind you, I would NEVER cheat on my GF with this girl or anyone else for that matter.

    Anyways, we're (me, my good friend and some of her friends) are at a party tonight and she gets super wasted. Long story short, she basically tells me point blank that she wish I didn't have a girlfriend because she wanted to fuck me. Now... we always joke with eachother saying "i love you!" because we have an awesome friendship, and I really do love her as a friend, but she was really getting too 'fresh' with me tonight. It's not the first time she's gotten that way, and it's always and ONLY when she's drunk and always 'in line', but I kinda had to push her away a few times which is more than the norm.

    Anyways, I love this girl to death, and shes one of my best friends in the world. I don't want to be too harsh to her if I don't have to be... but tonights behavior honestly can not be tolerated.

    I would NEVER cheat on my girlfriend, and I know my friend knows this, but how can I tell her point blank, no strings attached that last night's behavior is unacceptable without sounding like an ass?

    Thanks Vag...
     
  2. mrchina

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    I can't believe I have to say this, but way to be a stand up guy and be true to your relationship

    Second, I'd basically tell her what you posted above. You value your friendship however it's just that. You love your girlfriend and you're in it for the long run. What happened last night can't happen again.
     
  3. jmezz

    jmezz layin in bed stretchin my pumped quads for hours

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    I think you're reading too far into things.

    Also, I think suggesting that he stop hanging out and getting drunk with his friend is a little over the top.

    Mugen - Next time you see her I'd bring it up with her and me personally, I'd probably use a joke of somesort, or anything really, that makes me come off half serious/half joking. That way you don't come off sounding like an ass.

    If the problem persists after that, I'd re-evaluate the situation and go from there.
     
  4. Mugen92GS-R

    Mugen92GS-R New Member

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    Thanks so far for the replies.

    Viper, I can see where you would be skeptical, but I would seriously never cheat on my girlfriend, she means way too much to me for any one drunken night thing to fuck that up for. And I love my friend to death, but I'm not physically attracted to her, and even if I WAS single, I wouldn't have sex with her. Not that she's ugly, I just don't feel that way about her.

    The next time we hang out I think I'm just gonna joke around with her a little bit about what happened, but also let her know I'd never cheat on my girlfriend, and let her know she was getting a little too close to the line for my comfort the other night.

    Now I know why girls get all weird when their good guy friends start hitting on them :o
     
  5. jmezz

    jmezz layin in bed stretchin my pumped quads for hours

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    Not necessarily.
     
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    Mugen92GS-R New Member

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    I didn't say I was going to joke around while telling her it can't be tolerated, I just said I was going to joke with her about what happened some, and THEN tell her that it can't happen again, while being serious.
     
  7. Viper

    Viper Livin' la vida scrotum OT Supporter

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    I don't assert my statements as fact. I use blanket statements a lot under the assumption that everybody knows that it doesn't apply to every situation. I assume that most people aren't stupid and realize this on their own without having to clarify everytime that not EVERYBODY follows the patterns of advice I give nor is my advice always on target. :dunno:
     
  8. Falconer

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    Careful. The way you reject her may increase her attraction for you.
     
  9. Mugen92GS-R

    Mugen92GS-R New Member

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    :rofl: Seriously! :rofl:

    Someone could be like "my girlfriend didn't call me last night when she said she would... wtf!"

    Everyones response: DUMP THE [email protected]!!11one!
     
  10. Viper

    Viper Livin' la vida scrotum OT Supporter

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    I try not to tell people to end it, but Jesus, most of the time that IS the best advice for some of these relationships. Most of the time a thread pops up here because the relationship is so mangled beyond manageable that the only recourse is to bail.

    A blanket statement for ya. :mamoru:
     
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    Mugen92GS-R New Member

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    "Now... tell her your friends DeShawn, Deandre, Damian and Tone want to join you in bed...yes... yes...."
     

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