first - i always enjoy reading this forum, always good advice and some seriously hilarious posts. thanks to everyone for making my internet browsing entertaining. little about me: i moved quite far away from home 2 and a half years ago, i'm 24. been kind of used to having a girlfriend here, since i met my last girlfriend after about a month of living here. fast forward 2 years and some change later...and i'm out of a 2 year relationship a few months ago, shit ended terribly because my ex cheated on me with someone else while i wasn't around. shit hurts but whatever, shit also happens, right? so since then i've been open to the idea of having another girlfriend and what not, but we all know that takes time so i'm just hanging out with people and just being social since i spent most of my time working or with the old girl, and that's a big gap to fill since i didn't make a lot of friends which was a mistake being wrapped up with her. so I meet a few girls here and there, kinda looking for a friends w/ benefits thing so i can stay focused on my career and lets face it a dude's got needs. but ultimately i am hoping to find a new girl that's great - aren't we all!? had a little NSA thing going with a real attractive girl, but that came to an end because of unrelated things (she moved back to college). hung with a few girls and just wasn't feeling it - took one girl out to lunch kinda liked her felt she was the "nice" girl and then found out from a buddy she's seeing someone...she seemed sketchy so never called her back. here's where it gets interesting. met a pretty interesting cute girl, not the sharpest tool in the shed, but pretty fun to chill with...met her at a friends when he was having a fair share of people at his place. she lives across from him. ended up getting the #, hang out with her a few days later. she invites me over, and we end up watching a movie and hanging out with a group of friends. i figure good candidate for a friends w/ benefits or something, but i'm open minded. girl is super into me - started asking me what's up with what, you know. what do you look for in girls, i'm really happy i met you you're a lot of fun...shit like that. seems cool, well being an idiot and unlike my character i hook up with her that night. i never throw myself out there like that...but i've been frustrated and just let it go that far. my thoughts at the time were she was super into me, and i assumed she was going to want something out of it well before the physical shit, so why not. i wake up with her in my bed at some odd hour in the afternoon, and she's all over me. i take a shower and come back in my room to her kissing me and shit. "still want to hang out tonight" "i had a great time, at first i didn't want to, but i'm so glad we did"...etc etc. so i figured she was really into me, didn't mind spending time with her by any means even aside from the sex. not to mention it was really good, ha. sure enough, drop her off because she has shit to do and she tells me she'll call me when she's done. i know i'm gonna get that guy saying "yea you sucked in bed and she didn't want to fuck with you again or hurt your feelings" but i'm sure that wasn't the case, and i'm just being honest, not trying to brag on the internetzzz because i think i fuck like a porn star or something. girl never texts me, calls me, nothing. lol. thought the guy was the one that did that generally...haha. i'm not upset about it aside from the fact i shouldn't have slept with her so quickly - lesson learned...girls probably easy and i'm just an idiot...oh well, at least it was good, right? didnt think anything of it, til later that afternoon i hit her off with a call since we made plans, no answer. friendly text 30 mins later just saying "hey, what's up, if you still want to get together let me know". no reply so no more contact from me, don't want to be that guy. so 2 days later and i'm nothing more then just curious then anything why someone would be acting like they wanted more and then just disappear. ...this is where my long winded ranting is going though - am I fighting tough odds looking for a reasonably attractive girl that is into exclusivity at my age, and halfway intelligent to boot? like, i'm pretty social and i really don't introduce my career as a DJ/producer to people i intend to date until i get to know them - i hate the stereotypes i'm sure it gives off as i don't bring girls home from the club ever. i'm clean, don't ever drink or do drugs, no smoking, nothing like that. i have no confidence issues, in fact (and this isn't intended to come off assholeish) but i really feel bad for a few of my best friends since they dont have the mentality i do with just approaching people and meeting them. also i don't go for any certain "type" of girl, i'm open minded - in a month i've hung with a grad student, a professional model (which was just funny to me, girl was nuts), and two college girls that are far from similar on the social spectrum. there always seems to be some strange catch or its just odd and never works out. i'd say i have my shit together for my age - i don't mean to boast what i have by any means cuz there's always someone with more money and a better job - but since no one knows me here and i'm just trying to cover all my bases - i've got a nice place and a nice car and i keep both clean and well maintained. i just don't get it - i have a bunch of female friends that are reasonably attractive and we're strictly friends cuz that's just how i like them (not some stupid friend zone shit) - and they're all like "yeah i don't know what to tell you, just keep trying, you're doing a good job meeting em, they just don't seem on your level" but it just gets frustrating. guess i'll have to keep trying, and even though i know it's not the truth since i've been happy in relationships before and will after this post, it gets frustrating after awhile...seems like at my age of partying and hooking up i'm just looking for something relatively serious and no one else really is. alright, typed way too much....i'm out. thanks for reading. cliffs: is it THAT hard to find decent gf material these days...damn!