I wanted to put out my thoughts about the interactions I have been having with this one guy I have been interacting a lot with lately. This dude is by all accounts "socially awkward", and I feel that I am going to have to severly cut back on helping him out due to it becoming too stressful to myself and my family. I would appreciate advice and critique of my thoughts on how to deal with this friend. This dude is by all accounts "socially awkward" to the point of being unable to find a job or successfully perform in community college, but he has a B.S. in CS because he got it from Community college and did not really have to try. He has been looking for a job for 1+ year, and has not found one, because he is not looking very hard and refuses to do so in person. He playings MMORPGs as his only form of socialization, and I am his only friend. Before quitting FFXI he had over 1 year of logged in time, and is a big time player on EVE online. He makes under minimum wage working for ChaCha right now. His mother kicked him out of the house about 6 months ago. He has a traumatic history with her being very unstable around him, hitting and yelling a lot. Had to raise his brother because his mother was constantly meeting guys on match.com to date. He lives with his dad now, has to deal with the fact that his dad is dating a woman who decided to quit being a lawyer because she wanted to "study the codes in the bible", and has to live with several triggering things daily in his fathers small apartment. This guy spends the occasional weekend at my house. It started a few months back, and twice it was triggered because he would call me tearful about his father not wanting him at the home to have time with his gf. I decided to let him sleep on the couch if he promised to look for work while here, which he does so superficially, minimizing the task constantly. I have recommended therapy to him, which he refuses, saying he "is not nuts and does not need it", and I am working on motivating him to go towards treatment. I did get him to attend introductionally workforce prep courses, which was about 1-2 months ago. I guess I am writting this because at this point I am reaching the end of my line with my patience for him, I am having a major celebration this week, and he attempted to make it an excuse for him to stay over my place for the week, and it seems as if he was not even concerned that it was my celebration but just another excuse for him to get out of his fathers house for a while (which is understandable). Anyone want to chime in? I am really attempting to understand what is going on here with myself, and it seems that I need to distance myself and really think about it for a while. Thanks.