This is my relationship in a nutshell with my boyfriend. The first semester I moved home to go to school, my mom got hurt on the job and since has had to take another job with a serious cut in pay and less hours a week to work and off in the summers. My dad works part time and cant work full time at his job becuase of downsizing, and has a small business on the side to bring in additional income. I also work part time as well and make good money for my age bracket but it is not something that I could live on by myself. I also go to school full time. I give my parents money to help pay the bills because most of the time money is very very tight. My boyfriend and I are both 20, and have been together for 2 years and 7 months. We met at school and hit it off. We were skeptical of doing and ldr but we thought we could give it a whirl and for the last 2 years we have lived 3 hours apart. He went to a different school after I moved home and got certifications as a diesel and auto mechanic. I am still in school and I am going to be a junior this year. Since he has graduated I have asked him to move here and get a job and live so we could be at least within a 30 mi radius of each other. He says that’s not what he is going to do. However, he has asked me to quit my current school and my job, and my income for my parents and move in with him. I told him flat out that, that was something that I couldn’t afford to do, its not that I don’t love him but I just cant drop school and a job and pick up everything I own (which isn’t much) and move. I have a decent job and would basically have to start as a sophmore if I moved schools and lose insurance under parents which I cant afford now much less by myself. I have moved so many times in my life that I just hate putting my life in a box and picking up and going, and I don’t believe in living together before your married. Also I know what would happen when I moved in I would become his maid, pick up after him, do his laundry, cook etc etc, now I don’t mind doing all of that but he cant or wont do any of the above listed things because his mom does everything for him. I don’t understand why he wouldn’t move here and get an apartment, the cost of living in my city is almost half of what it is in his. In the last few months, we have not had the best relationship we have had a few very serious fights, one of which involved his mother and I just didn’t let her steamroll me like she does everyone else in her house, now I am no longer able to call the house nor am I allowed in the house. I basically told her that she needed to keep her nose out of our relationship, that it didn’t concern her, and told her to cut her apron strings, quickly for all three of us sakes. Needless to say I am not on the top of her favorite list from the get go but I think I sealed the deal with those comments on the hate list. When I go see him I spend a whole weekend and used to stay at his house but now I stay at my cousins. When he comes and sees me he has normally been up for like 30 hours, had about 4 hours of sleep, stays for like 9 hours, and goes home. He absolutely refuses to stay at my house and he has been asked to stay by my parents and me. I am so frustrated with the whole situation, we fight about the littlest things now and have big fights as well. We used to never fight. He wants his cake and eat it too and I want to compromise and his mother has never been my favorite person either because she's a fake but is so overbearing and intrusive it drives me nuts, and it seems that he is ok with it. I am no saint in this I have done some things to at times increase tension between us, but I am not afraid to take an issue head on. I love him dearly and he is honestly the best boyfriend I have had to date. But I think somewhere along the way I lost myself in all the school and work and dealing with him. Im lost I thought if I could ask you all you could give me an objective third party opinion. What do you all think?