I have a few issues that I need to resolve but really dont know where to turn... I was sexually abused by my sister when I was around 9 years old and think this might have affected me more than I thought. I still have to be civil to her because none of my other family know and I don't want to cause trouble. She'd probably deny it anyway. She's about 5 years older than me. I find it extremely hard to connect on an emotional level with anyone including close family. I don't like public affection whatsoever or hugging/kissing family members. I have no empathy whatsoever for other people's situations/problems I've only had sex once despite numerous encounters with women. I've had several occasions where i've been unable to perform, sometimes when sober sometimes when drunk. Now i'm worried that I won't be able to perform, so have avoided women. I've no problem with foreplay etc just the actual sex. This is constantly on my mind. I am in my mid 20's Essentially I just feel like a complete failure in life. I've got nothing going for me, no job, no girl, no money. How can I sort myself out? Especially the sexual issues (read above)? It's difficult to be honest with any girls, especially at my age, they'd just think I'm weird. Is there something wrong with me?