(to prevent totally negative impressions, i will preface this by saying that other than this behavior, I have never had any problems with my dad at all. he's gone very much out of his way to help me numerous times, and supported his/our entire family since he was 17 ) When I was a child, I started to notice my dad would do things with blatant disregard for rules or laws - not anything terrible, but just minor things that would make me be like "dad! you're not supposed to do that!" and he would always have an explanation for it. he seems to think certain rules don't apply to him, generally, and he lives his life in that sort of manner. just as a few examples, when getting diesel, he gets the #1 stuff that isn't supposed to be in vehicles, at gas stations where he can position his truck so the cashiers can't tell. he absolutely refuses to wear a seatbelt, he does shady stuff with finances (we all think so, but no idea really), does not follow local regulations (for building, environmental rules, etc), and so on. he also steals things, but i won't get into that. Also when applied to other people he is like this. if someone turns out in front of him, he speeds up (i guess to scare them?). he has put his life at risk getting into almost-fights with young guys (yelling at them over their music) and is never afraid to openly say what he thinks to people...even brutally so, and even if it's ill-advised. i wouldn't say he is anti-social, but he seems to value his own motives and instincts over all others (except his family). i know i can't change him, but i'm afraid at times that i have adopted these "values" subconsciously. i was always scandalized, yet impressed, as a kid with how much he was able to get away with. i've noticed my disregard for certain rules, feeling like they don't apply to me if i can't get in trouble for them (traffic rules, just as a specific example). i have also stolen a few minor things when i was younger (presents for others that i didn't have money for), before i even realized he was like this i am wondering, is this headstrong arrogance something i've learned/adopted from him? sometimes i have a tendency now to look at the world as "my ballgame" per se, and if people inconvenience me, I feel very "you're in my way." should I continue to work to completely eradicate this behavior? Is there some other factor I'm not seeing here?