I suck in so many ways so why not share this with OT and potentially the world? My wife and I have been married for 6+ years. We have known each other since highschool. We're both 32 now. We have 1 four year old child. I COMMITTED ADULTERY LAST AUGUST ('08) FOR TWO WEEKS. I admitted it to her although I coulda gotten away with it. I told her because I thought if the tables were turned I'd like to know and be able to make my own choice. I've never cheated before. I'm not a player and have never had any issue with infidelity. It's not something I've struggled with. We've always had a relationship where she's worn the pants and always "won" if an issue came up. I haven't spoken up over the years or indicated when I thought she was being pushy or unfair. That's my fault and I take the blame. After all, how could she know if I felt mistreated if I didn't tell her? The times that happened I told myself "don't sweat the small stuff." Marriage is bigger than these little "insignificant" issues. Unfortunately it wasn't small stuff. She has major control issues and must always have leverage over any relationships she has. Her mom is exactly the same. So I told her about the affair and she immediately went to live with her parents in Florida for a month. She took our daughter. I drove the 1100 miles down there 3 times to visit because I felt so sick without her. A couple times in the past 6 months she's said she loves me. About a month and a half ago that all stopped. Now it's just "I hate you, this can never work, you've changed me permanently, if we stay together KNOW that I WILL cheat on you and it's not as bad as what you did because I'm warning you." Since I've told her she has also beaten me many times and actually made me bleed and gave me a black eye/popped blood vessels for a month. I'm totally lost and understand her true nature is probably not so stellar but I can't imagine life without her Cliffs: I had an adulterous relationship for 2 weeks in August of 2008. My dumb ass told my wife. She has beaten me bloody (literally) and mentally tormented me for over 6 straight months. I still want her. Yes I know I suck @ life.