Hello. im 19 years old and new to this site and this thread immediatly caught my attention. i was wondering if i could get some advice and answers to some questions. First, i was wondering what makes a person gay. more specifically, i was wondering if i were "gay". ive been curious about this for a few years, but i have avoided makeing a firm decision and i am still unsure of what i am. Here is my dilemma and why i am so unsure of myself. you see, i get aroused by women which should mean im "straight". but i fall for men which should mean im "gay". i dont ever remember being in love with a woman. but i dont get off looking at guys. presently, i find myself "likeing" one of my guy friends. i get these feelings, dare i say, feelings of being in love. however, its not very sexual. but still, im confused.