Back story (and this is the cliffs version): I am the oldest of five children between my parents. The youngest two were fraternal twins, and the male died doing something stupid when he was 15, 8 years ago. My folks divorced when I was 22, about a year and a half after that youngest brother of mine died. The sister that comes after me in age started becoming a problem child when she hit high school. She fell in with the wrong crowds of people whose sole goals in life were doing drugs and partying. Unfortunately for her, this was not a phase. Irresponsibility and bad choices became the hallmark of her life. She made so many bad choices in EVERYTHING, that it is nothing short of astonishing that she's alive. She chose lousy boyfriends, lousy friends, lousy jobs, and abused the family that tried to help her. She is easily the most selfish, manipulative person that I've ever met. When she finished high school (barely), she went with the rest of her friends into the world of low-paying jobs that allowed them to live off of shitty food, live in shitty apartments, and have their lives where chemical entertainment was paramount to anything and everything. She got some education as a nurse tech, but washed out of that program due to her lifestyle. At some point in time, she went off with one of her many loser boyfriends to California and lived there for some time. They showed up about a year later with a recently purchased, but never maintained Cadillac. Through some more ugly shit, they broke up and she moved back in with my mom. Some time later, she begins dating some other loser and ends up pregnant. My sister has this kid about a year after my youngest brother had died. We lean on this guy to get himself straight, and he tries it for a bit, but ends up addicted to crack and trying to sell it for money. Eventually my brother catches him trying to rob my mom's house and holds him at gunpoint for the cops to arrive. He spent a few years in jail and just got out this year. He still doesn't have much interest in his son. During the years after he went to jail, my sister went on a roller coaster of more drug addiction, alcoholism, and trying to get clean. She left the apartment she shared with the father of her child and ended up with my mom again. For about two years while her son was an infant and young toddler, she got somewhere close to normal, but that changed. Eventually she discovered that my mom was putting lots of effort into trying to give her son a good upbringing, so she decided to start treating him more like a pet (an inconvenience) that mom was taking care of. She started to turn back into her old self... --------------------------------- This brings us closer to the present. As she let my family do most of the work raising her child, she went back to the life she wanted: total lack of caring for anything but entertaining herself. If you look at her myspace, her major interests are clubbing and house music. No mention of her child, friends, or family... just more mindless garbage. My mom, my brother, my brother's girlfriend, and my other sister are the ones mostly raising that kid, with my father who lived in a different part of town being involved here and there. Eventually she ends up with no other than the former cell mate of the father of her son. (I should get us a talk show appearance. ) They get together and she gets pregnant again. When I asked her how this happened, she stated that she didn't think she could get pregnant again. Awesome... So this guy tries to be straight about things. He has a past, but he seems more willing to be a good father and responsible person. They move in to a house together with some physical assistance from my family, as neither of them are good at anything. That second son was born last November. I met this guy once at Christmas. He seemed alright, but history of my sister gives me reason to be leery of this guy. My understanding from then until now was that both were pursuing legitimate work and trying to raise those two boys. Yesterday I get contact from my father who tells me that the police raided their home. It turns out that dad #2 had been dealing ecstasy with occasional help from my sister when he wasn't around. She also had a handgun in the house. Dad #2 is probably on his third or later strike and is facing 15-30 years. My sister is charged with one class A and two class C felonies for up to 15 years. There's no avoiding hard time for her and it will be lawyers and plea bargaining that determine how hard she gets hit. So now she's in the clink, and frankly, that's where my father, my brother, and I believe she needs to be. She has spent nearly 30 years avoiding reality and now she can't run any more. She's going to likely do a few years in jail before ending up on a long parole. Maybe she'll eventually get straight, but now she's going to be starting from square one. In the mean time, my family has ended up with her children. I have a feeling that I'm going to end up as a foster dad to one of them for at least some fraction of their lives, as my girlfriend and I have pretty normal lives and will likely end up married (we've been dating for several years). The whole family worries about these boys because they'll never have a normal upbringing... it's already too late for that. Anyhow, this is some fucked up shit that has gone on for half my life and I needed to vent. I've never seen anyone do so much damage to the lives of their family while doing even more to their own. I feel horrible for my parents more than anything as I would be so very ashamed if that were my child. ... and to think that people wonder why I'm happy being so far away from my family. I feel better now.