Ok. So, my boyfriend broke up with me because his life is really complicated and stressful right now and basically he can't handle a relationship at the same time. He still likes me a lot and we're really great together, but it just can't happen right now. We've talked it out a lot, and he really wants to be friends and hang out so we can still enjoy each other's company. He just said we can't be a couple, at least while he is dealing with the issues he needs to address in his life. So I told him I'd do the friends thing with him. We're going to start hanging out again after he gets back from being out of town this weekend. He broke it off a week and a half ago. The problem? I'm in love with him. I know he isn't there. His whole premise for ending it was to do so before feelings got too strong so feelings weren't too hurt. Well, I guess it worked for him, but not for me. It's not like there is no attraction, he just isn't as far along as I am. I tend to fall faster and harder than most people, but I just know that about myself and keep things to myself until the other person is at the same place. So I'm going to be hanging out with him now. I've already seen him on several occasions in friendly but casual settings, and we act the same together, just no touchy-feely lovey-dubbey stuff. I had a talk with him the other day and told him that basically, I wanted him to tell me if he thought we would not get back together at some point. He said he couldn't say one way or another, because while he would like to, he didn't want to get my hopes up but also could not say it was a definite no. I told him that it's likely I will want to be a couple for quite some time, and I can't help feeling like that. I told him all that, so he was aware of how I'm feeling. He feels it's good we put everything out there so we both know where each other is as far as feelings go. Before people start jumping on him for acting like that, he really is dealing with a lot. It makes my life look like a cake walk and I am far from issue free. I don't blame him for not being able to handle a relationship right now. I have had advice not to "wait for him" — but I don't think that I would pass up a serious opportunity. However, as long as I'm single and there are no opportunities on my doorstep, that's pretty much what I'll be doing. I haven't told him I'm in love with him, that would just make things awkward. The thing is, I don't know if I am going to end up more in love with him or less so as time goes on being friends. I guess what I'm saying is that I'm confused, and the rational side of me says what I am doing is a bad idea, but the emotional side of me is saying, I'm in love with him, and I want to be around him, in whatever capacity is appropriate given his situation, and just hope for the possibility of a future.