Backstory. I'm 24. I decided to quit my job and go back to school as a transfer student with an AA. I'm 250 miles from where I used to live. I just broke up with my ex (and only ex) of 2.5 years. She's never been completely faithful, understanding or fair. I had a handful of friends here, but due to a crappy situation with one of them right after I got here, I'm sort of alienated to all of them now. I now have pretty much one friend (my roomate) and his brother. They're cool and all, but they are kind of loners themselves. Difference is, they like it that way. At any rate, I can hardly make new friends through them. I'm a CS Major, so there are literally two girls in my classes and most of the guys are the gamer/nerd types that I can get along great with, but are not the type of people I'm expecting to branch out through nor go to a bar with. So here I am. An extremely socially phobic 24 year old undergrad in a strange town. There are bars, but without anyone to go with, I feel like I might appear to be a creeper sitting alone with nothing to do but drink the beer in front of me. I physically CAN NOT approach people or strike up a conversation myself, but if I am thrust into one, I can flourish. I am decently attractive, great hygiene, great personality when I'm open, etc. No mental instability aside from my super low self confidence and depression. Advice in the vein of "Learn how to approach people/get over your shyness/etc" is NOT what I'm looking for. I've heard it a million times. Basically I'm asking how to get into a situation where I might be forced to talk to someone or they might approach me. Is this possible while going alone to a bar? Or is there somewhere else I can go on a college campus? Dancing is also not an option for many reasons. I'm getting desperate (which I know is also another bad quality to have when trying to talk to people). I have started drinking a bit every night just to calm my nerves and get to sleep (as well as get over my ex). Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. Every night, though, I slump further into depression and I need to get out of it. "You're fucked" is a perfectly valid answer in the case of there's nothing else I can do except follow the "get over your shyness" advice. I'm pretty much expecting it.