Alright guys, be honest...

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  1. DarkAngel19

    DarkAngel19 New Member

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    After you jerk off/cum, what sort of appetite for sex do you have? Or, how long does it take for you to actually desire sex/head/jerking it?

    I have realized that I most likely have an irrational turn-off to my SO whacking it before I try to seduce him... I just don't totally believe that he wants to have sex, so I feel like his heart isn't in it and I lose interest too.

    Our schedules have been conflicting lately so I keep coming home right after he has had his daily porn-fest... and I wanna get it on, but... it doesn't seem as hot.

    Thoughts?

    DA
     
  2. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Are you guys still having problems in that department? In the last thread didn't you say he was having trouble getting off from head or sex? I hope his whacking it before you get there isn't his way of getting out of the act...
     
  3. huntz0r

    huntz0r New Member

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    10-15 minutes at least. If I'm honest, it's not going to be as exciting on the second round, and less so on the third. I don't see why your dude can't hold off on the whacking if he knows the real thing is coming home to him soon... I know I would

    (that last part I just realized sounds like a come-on, it's not :mamoru: )
     
  4. DarkAngel19

    DarkAngel19 New Member

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    I hope so too! But I think it's genuine. I am in finals week at school so I'm no longer going to regular classes, which screws up his regime:) We are definitely better in our relationship, sex is good:naughty:

    Except now I don't feel like his mojo is the same... or maybe I just never knew how much he whacks it, and now I do and it sucks? I like porn as much as the next girl, but if I'm RIGHT THERE... is it really necessary?

    Maybe I don't want to know the answer to that...

    DA
     
  5. huntz0r

    huntz0r New Member

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    It's not going to be if he just whacked off and is in double-shift mode. Perhaps you just need to make it more clear when you are going to be home. But it's hard not to think there is a deeper issue at work here.
     
  6. jmezz

    jmezz layin in bed stretchin my pumped quads for hours

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    After cumming from jerking off, or sex, I'm ready to go again right afterwards. Doesn't make a difference how I came before.
     
  7. DarkAngel19

    DarkAngel19 New Member

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    Are we talking boner, or desire?
     
  8. jmezz

    jmezz layin in bed stretchin my pumped quads for hours

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    Both.
     
  9. Yahdude

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    I don't know about all these guys, but after I rub one out there is zero desire. Then again, I've NEVER done so when there was even a HINT of anything real going on in the near future. Currently in a long distance relationship and I hold off for a week or so before I see her...good stuff.

    It seems almost commonplace from men that I've heard talk about it, but I've never ever felt the need to rub one out if I'm in a relationship with regular sex...wtf for? I can wait.

    Don't want to be the only negative person in this thread, but if you were my chick you would have good reason to be worried.
     
  10. jmezz

    jmezz layin in bed stretchin my pumped quads for hours

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    I mean I guess I could elaborate a little more.

    For me, it's really 'girl dependent.'

    I've dated girls and after I've came I didn't want to do anything anymore, at least not for a little while.

    I am so turned on by my gf now that as soon as we're done, I am ready to go again.
     
  11. demosnat

    demosnat New Member

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    Boyfriends only desire after getting off is for sleep, for at least half an hour or so
     
  12. phish

    phish hockey crew

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    Umm, actually for me, I don't have the desire right away. So if your BF jizzed prior to you coming home, I can see why he wouldn't want to sexor right away.

    Tell your BF to wait for you if he cares
     
  13. Yahdude

    Yahdude New Member

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    Troof, you need to at least talk to him about it, you seem to feel/believe there is a difference somewhere...I'm sure he could help you figure it out.
     
  14. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    a day if its sex usually. but idk if im jerking it about 2 hours if im just sitting on the pc killing time
     
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    :werd:

    Why the fuck would I jack off if I knew I was getting laid later? I like the times I don't get to see her for a few days and then get those massive orgasm's :bowdown:

    I'd say I'm good to go about 30 minutes later... so some good cuddling, a cigarette, and then lets go again :kdubb:
     
  16. Guardfather

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    Well, I can tell you that there are definitely some of us who can have more than 5 orgasms in one day and still be horny, and "into it". I'm assuming you have an open, honest relationship with him. Talk with him about it. If he tells you he's still all into it, then he probably is. I can remember a few times where I wasn't, but there were plenty of times where I was. Hell, there have been nights where I'd masturbate and cum at least 5 times. There have been days where I'd have sex with my gf that much too. Some guys have that sort of unstoppable sex drive.
     
  17. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Buzz Killington :mamoru: Remember this thread? That's why I made my initial comment, I worry the problems are still there and the outcome inevitable :(
    http://forums.offtopic.com/showthread.php?t=3453825
     
  18. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :rofl: yes sir :hsugh:
     
  19. RockDaBoat

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    After I rub one out I have no desire for sex for a few hours... But, it really is a different story when I'm with a woman, I'm insatiable.
     
  20. Nitin

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    :werd: If I jerk off, sex becomes the furthest thing from my mind. But if I'm with my girlfriend, I'm always ready to go for round 2 immediately. :naughty:
     
  21. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Jerking off is like a snack while sex is like a meal. I can snack and still be hungry, but if I have a meal, I need a little time before I can eat again.
     
  22. surlybot

    surlybot you cool maaaaaaannn?

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    for me, its usually about 30-45 minutes.
     
  23. Yail Bloor

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    i lose all desire for sex when i ejaculate

    in my younger days, i could remain hard and go again immediately
     
  24. DarkAngel19

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    :rofl: SO true...

    You and my SO must be clones, he LOVES jacking off:mamoru:

    1. Yes, about 20 lbs (it's recorded in Nicky's link), 5-7 maybe lost so far, net. We started going to the gym together and jogging right next to each other on the treads, it was great support. I get very competitive and he can run longer than me so I would try to match him. I would hyperventilate, but I would try:) He tells me that his attraction returned as soon as he saw that I was actively doing something about 'it'.

    2. We have little to no fights, and I'm being honest. If we do, it's something like:

    "Did you really just walk snow all over the house and complain to me about how there is water on the floor?"
    "Yes."
    "You are an idiot, I'm not cleaning it up for you."

    3. Yes, all the time, we are really attached at the hip. He actually just recently told me that he needs some 'alone' time which I gladly obliged. We turned at least one night a week into "Girl/Guy Night", which so far has been great.

    Hey, long time no see, how is your super-weight-loss-challenge going??

    DA
     
  25. razi

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    it depends on how much effort I have to put into it. sometimes the refractory time is short, sometimes I just want to go to bed.

    it's probably a sign of some unresolved issue. it was with me in my last relationship, sad to say.
     

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