Recently went through a break-up and have been doing some self reflection. I've noticed that in all my past relationships the same sort of pattern arises... It seems like every relationship the girl I'm with wants to do things together more often than I do. Now, it's not because I don't want to do things with them but rather I have my own interests that are separate from theirs and I like to make sure I'm taking time for myself to do the things I like. The girls I'm with tend to want to see me every day and when we're together demand my full attention. This leads to a few things.. 1. They tell me I don't incorporate them into my life enough and share the things I like with them and 2. It causes fights which result in me feeling guilty for wanting time to myself. Am I selfish or something? Does anyone have any similar experiences and/or insight?