some background... my mom left me, my dad and my brother many years ago, so us 3 boys lived alone for a couple years. She got remarried and lives with her husband about 1.5 hours away from us. My dad also got remarried and him, his new wife, my new step sisters and my brother moved off into a new house. I stayed home (bought the house from my dad), and have been living independent in my house for about a year and a half now. Now the house that my mom and her hubby live in is owned by her brother(my uncle). My uncle is choosing to sell the house so they must move out soon. There are also problems between my uncle and my mom's husband. They have very low income and can barely even pay him rent. So he's choosing to move out to ohio where his brother lives and of course my mother doesn't exactly want to move that far away. So she either moves out there with him or they split up and she moves somewhere closer to us (my brother and i and rest of her family). No one has the room to take her in...my grandfather, uncle, or my aunts dont have room in their houses. I however, have my entire house to myself with a spare room. My uncle and grandfather both said i should take her in while she gets back on her feet, which i agreed.. she is my mother and i understand that. So as of last month she was supposed to be moving in with me. I've always been cold to my mom since they got divorced. Not on purpose, it's just me and i dont know why i do it..but it's me. I dont like talking to her really, barely pick up phone calls, hardly ever drive the 1.5 hours to see her. Only been seeing her on special family occasions and holidays really.. Part of the reason is she isn't all there mentally.. everyone knows she has depression, and seems skitzo (sp?) every now and then. She still treats me like a kid (im 23).. to me it seems like she's stuck back in time where she left off, when i was like.. i dont even remember, maybe 13 or 14? So i wasn't too thrilled about her moving in with me but she's my mother, and i do love her etc etc. She constantly cries on the phone, asks me if i love her.. calls 10x in a row cause i dont answer and leaves empty voicemails.. just very annoying to me. So i tell her she can move in but it's not forever..get a job, get on your feet and look for an apartment. she agreed at first but then it was "why not forever".. she says she wants to settle and not keep moving around. NO.. i told her she is NOT living with me..i live alone for a reason. i have my own life, a serious girlfriend, a dog, etc...NO.. so i tell her it's a couple months MAXIMUM or nothing. she says she can't keep moving so she may just move with ray (husband) to ohio.. shes crying histerically, asking me if i'll come visit.. she's just plain miserable. i dont want to be the cause of her life being any more miserable than it already it. they have no money..she's terribly irresponsible with money. It kills her to be 75 miles away from me and my brother..let alone now she will be 500+ miles away. It's killing her. She's 49 and not in the best of health, bad shape. I dont know what to do. I feel soo guilty about not letting her live with me but i cannot be miserable in my own house. if she was a normal mother, maybe i'd let it go for more than 6 months, but i told her 6 months maximum, and she said it's not enough. she's not normal and i can't handle that.. and i need my privacy, especially with my girl. i'd like to get married in the next few years and i just cannot have my mom living there and making me upset all the time. i love her and she's a great woman, a good heart and will do anything she possibly can for me and my bro, but i can't live with her. it hurts me that i'm being like this but i can't help it..