Quick back story: Broke up with my girlfriend alittle over a month ago. We were off and on. We broke up for about a month late last year and got back together 1-2 weeks before Christmas. We remained together for about 3 months until she needed more time (yet again) to find out what she wanted. I told her that I was unwilling to be pulled through the mud again, so we ended our relationship. The Present: I went out on a date with a nice girl from work on Friday, she's a bit older than me, but it was still a good time. Overall, it went well. We went mini-golfing and got something to eat. I also got her number. We typically only communicated via email and speaking face to face. The issue: I'm still hung up on my ex-girlfriend. While the girl I took out and I were mini-golfing, my thoughts shifted to my ex, if even only for a few moments. I genuinely missed her. Later that night, my ex-girlfriend left me a voice message saying that she had to put her dog down and wanted to call me to tell me because she knew I liked her dog. I didn't call her back, but instead I bought a pet/beloved animal sympathy card and sent it to her family. Another interesting tidbit, I found myself thinking about my ex-girlfriend only physically. I do occasionally miss our fun times together, but it was overshadowed by a lot of the bad. I think about her and imagining someone else being with her on the level we were upsets me in some way. I think about touching her, being with her, etc. Is this relatively normal? In the past month, the most I've spoken with her was 30 seconds when she called me after we saw each other at a bar about 2-3 weeks ago. She wanted to see if I got home OK. Not really sure what I should do from this point. Bah, it just sucks. Looking for support and love from my OT famry.