background: she has a male friend in our japanese class that she always talks to (borderline flirt) and ends up ignoring me story: Today was just like every other day in Japanese lecture… I would wake up early to go to her apartment so we can go to class together. When we’re alone in class, we talk about nothing and everything is great. When her friend walks in, though, she ends up completely ignoring me. I don’t mind her talking with friends, but when she ends up giggling the entire class because of a guy and doesn’t really talk to me or see how I feel, that’s when I get kind of upset. About a month ago, after we started dating, she talked the entire day with him… I swear they were flirting. When I asked a question, she just replied “umm.. yeah” and went right back on flirting with him. The teacher came up to them and asked if they were “good friends”. After class, I walked faster than he did to see who she would walk with, and she ended up walking with him, flirting even after class. Then, when I asked her to eat lunch with me, she paused for a second and said sure, only to immediately ask him to eat lunch with us. She seemed really disappointed that he didn’t, and I don’t think she would’ve felt as much disappointment if I said I couldn’t eat lunch. Anyway, we got into another fight today about it. Stop flirting with him during class, pay more attention to me. When him and I say something at the same time, she ends up listening to whatever he says and laughs. I guess that’s what got me upset today. After talking about it, she said she couldn’t hear me…. because she was so intent on listening to him? I’m having serious doubts on her feelings for him. She always sits closer to him than to me, she always laughs at whatever he says, she’s always asking him for help with homework (and denies my help)… maybe I’m blowing things out of proportion. During lunch, when I expressed my concerns and said that she CAN do something about how I’m feeling, she said “no, I won’t. I’ll do what is comfortable for me” …. correct me if I’m wrong, but I don’t think that’s what girlfriends are supposed to say to their boyfriends. I always thought love is one of those things where the more you give, the more you receive. What the hell am I doing wrong… not flirting with other people in front of your significant other is not only considered courteous, it’s COMMON SENSE. “oh, he’s just a younger brother to me” “oh, we have matching personalities” “oh, he talks a lot during class and you don’t… what can I do?” “I don’t care, I’ll do what is comfortable for me” I’m hoping that I’m blowing things out of proportion, and I’m really hoping that tomorrow we’ll both be laughing about this… but what she said to me right before I walked out did some serious damage. It’d be nice if she did something to fix it, but I’m not holding my breath. I’ve stopped expecting her to do nice things for me.