For the last couple of years my anxiety is getting worse and worse. I don't know exactly what a "panic attack" is persay but I do get little episodes of fear for no reason. For example in a restaurant the other day I got this feeling of extreme discomfort and I didn't want to finish eating and it was almost painful to stay inside...so I had to go outside and take a walk for a while. Anyway, that's all fine and good to be to be honest. I can deal with that type of bullshit because it's better than the other option of being medicated all of the time. That is, until it got into my sex life. When I'm with certain people, I get hard as a rock and I'm great in bed. Generally (this is amateur by the way) these girls tend to be Type-B quiet personalities. However, I am with a girl now that I'm actually really really into..and that's the first time in a while I can actually say that. The first time we got physical we were able to have sex, but it was bad because it was on the beach and sandy and quick because there were people close by . The second time I had the house all to myself with her. It was going to be an amazing night right? She starts rubbing my dick - Rock hard Blowing me - rock hard She wants me to put it inside her - I instantly go limp. I just had this crazy anxious experience and adrenaline rushed through me and I became too soft to have sex. It was so embarrassing. Two days after, I try again and get soft again THE SECOND she goes for penetration. Later that night, I call her BACK over because it was killing me inside. I actually get hard enough to get inside of her and we go for a good 3 minutes...until I decide to pull out and take my pants all the way off and I lose my erection AGAIN. I KNOW this is not physical, because I had a girl for the past month and I was rock hard everytime, never an erection problem. I just can't do it with this new girl, and i just know if I keep fucking up like this, I'm going to lose her. She's a great girl, but this is pathetic, I don't blame her for getting frustrated. What the hell can I do? Should I just find a viagra sample and take it so once I get a good go with her I won't be anxious anymore. A Xanax? I told her about the anxiety thing so that was weight off of my shouders but it still couldn't get me hard. I feel absolutely helpless. I know eventually I'll need therapy, but in the mean time i need a short term plan because i CANT FUCK THIS UP oops and i also need to add that I have had this problem before, I don't remember if I said that.But It always seems to be with one night stands and stuff.