Discussion in 'Vaginarium' started by jonno, Sep 19, 2008.
that you don't have classes or anything with. how?
grow a set, walk, and talk.
edit: fuck, thought this was in the main forum
it's not even like a certain girl. i see girls that look interesting everywhere BUT my classes.
it's cool. that's pretty much what i need to do
If your talking about at University/College then it's simple really. I'm in engineering, and there are hardly Any girls in there. So, I meet most girls outside of class. Whenever I see hot girls that I'd like to talk to, I look for something in that situation that could start a convo (i find that something to bug them about is normally best). If they become engaged, continue conversing and whatnot. If she shows disinterest/not wanting to talk (should be pretty easy to tell), then don't force conversation but continue on with your day. Approaching girls isn't like a pick up or anything (in my opinion), it's just being social and friendly.
I'll allow it
Dude. College is SO EASY to talk to girls at.
I wish I knew then what I know now.
(granted I had LTRs when I was in college so whatever. I'm just saying)
Why is it easy?
Girls in college want you to talk to them. In other words, you are PISSING THEM OFF if you don't talk to them.
Now, some people will jump in and say "um, dude, girls ALWAYS want you to talk to them. What girl wakes up and says 'gee i hope I don't meet a cool guy today'?"* But in college, people don't have things like careers, or families, or anything to do, so they are out and about wanting to meet people.
* check out those nested quotes, grammar nazis!!!!
I just orgasmed so hard that Janet Reno felt it.
Join clubs they're active in and participate by volunteering. Next thing you know your baking cookies with them and sleeping in their bed
Well any fuckstick can look back and say how easy it would have been.
But it's not.
It's like saying you should have talked to the girl at Dunkin Donuts this morning, but you didn't -- as if you somehow LEARNED something new in 2 hours.
You didn't learn anything new. You're just not in the emotional context of the situation so it seems easier.
Bottom line is you just sack up and start convo. Straight up. No gimmicks. If you're in the fucking sandwich line you say "oh man that sounds delicious I think I'm going to get the same thing" -- that's how I started a convo yesterday.
It's mostly situational shit. If you're walking next to her just smile and say "hey where are you walking to?" super casually. Blah blah, "oh by the way I'm Jonno".
Worst that can happen is (holy shit!) you only exchange a couple sentences and get on with life. Just make sure it's not creepy. During the day you're not trying to impress. You're just trying to show how ABSOLUTELY FUCKING normal you are.
But yeah it makes you nervous and for the most part always will a little bit.
Ironically, what made it easier for me to talk to new people at school in between classes was when I decided I don't want to date girls from my school. However, I actually mean it.
Ain't that the god damn truth. That's like the whole crux of dealing with women. Finding ways to not come off as a creeper.
Ended up watching a chick flick with my woman: Baby Momma
Its wasn't nearly as horrible as I thought it would be, and as an added bonus, the interactions between Greg Kinnear and the main female character are golden.
I'd recommend any guy who is unsure how to talk to women to check it out and watch the scenes when they first meet. Perfect example of laying back, "being yourself," not being nervous, not letting her little jabs offend or throw him off, and some cocky and funny thrown in.
Also notice how he's close to deadpan without being boring.
Ultimately, once you learn to be "in the moment" without letting fear take root, you will be fine. Will probably take some practice to get to that point.
excellent advice, blackice