Everyones favorite thread, female problems... Here is the start to what could be a long story, and if you read it and reply I really appreciate your time. It all started last May. I met a girl in class who was pretty good looking. I would say something like a 7-8/10. Right from the start we hit it off and found we have a lot in common. She is a huge sports fan, and she plays college sports. She enjoys doing a lot of the things I do. She parties a lot, and by a lot I mean practically every weekend its either a party or a club, which I am fine with but not overly excited about. She also gets pretty hammered all the times she goes out. Ok, so we go out for the first time and have a pretty good time. She would text me everyday saying things like "You're cute." About 2 days later she invites me over and we make out and watch a movie. This is when I first noticed something was wrong because she started to get quiet, and she is not a quiet person. We hang out a few more times, and then I give her flowers and ask if she likes me/plans to ever be serious about this(so im not wasting my time), and she says she isnt the commited type, and she drinks and goes out a lot and cant be responsible for what she does. She kinda gets like a freaked out expression but like trying to fake being happy at the same time. So pretty soon the texts stopped coming in so frequently, and then to the point where I had to text her or she wouldn't text me at all. Keep in mind I saw her at school quite often and she acted like nothing was wrong. I kept trying to make plans with her, and she keeps saying yes but then at the last minute blowing me off. Normally I would have taken the hint, except she would now apologize and say how she really does like me but is busy. One night she texts me drunk and says all this shit about how shes scared she will fall in love with me because she hasn't liked someone this much in a while and she wants it to work. The only problem is she wouldn't tell me any of this while sober, so I couldn't know if she really meant it. She did this about 2 more times. So I go out with her again to dinner and we have a good time and then she doesnt talk to me for 2 months, im over it good riddance... So out of the blue I get a text from her and we have a convo. Then I get the, "Do you still like me?" text. She says she is sorry for blowing me off and how she was just scared and she still likes me and she says she is really going to try to open up to me now. So we go out mini golfing with another couple who I know through her. New years eve we all go to a party, she gets drunk, is all over me and says she likes me etc etc we make out among other stuff. And now today it feels like she is trying to avoid me again. I honestly feel like as of right now if someone better came along she would go off with him instead of me without thinking about it. Where do I draw the line? She keeps coming back to me, and then ditching me. When ever I go out with her unless its her idea, it feels like I have to force her to go or else she makes an excuse, and thats no good. It also feels like shes almost afraid to be with me alone, and only wants to go out with other people. I would have been done with her a while ago, but she keeps coming back and I keep thinking there might be a chance. Should I come straight out and say if she isn't going to be serious about this that its done? Being the softy that I am I hate making others upset or mad, and I don't like enemies. Everytime she ditches me its kinda hard on me, and I can't keep putting myself through this. Cliffs: Girl keeps coming back to me of her own will, then blowing me off, then coming back, etc. What do I do in this situation. I'm a pussy Again if you took the time to read this and help me out I really appreciate it. THe answer seems obvious enough but I dont know how to go about it.