Just for some perspective, I live in Northern Alberta, Canada. In a booming oil town with few available women due to the rich oil-patch workers moving to the city for work. I'm a 23 year-old pale-white male, very intelligent, damn skinny, ambitous, and brutally honest. I 'm dating a 21 year old East Indian girl from Pakistan that I met at work while going to college, and we eventually started going out, and have been for two years. She is thin, very short, a humanitarian, hard worker, school-smart, lives with her parents and is very stubborn. Her parents do not allow her to have men in her car, to date, and want her marry another Pakistani, and do not know about me. They talk about arranging a marriage for her as well, although she can decline. As far as Muslims go, her parents are 'moderate', and she is 'barely Muslim' as I like to say. She is strong about her faith but has very little knowledge about it, and I'm often explaining her faith to her. The only thing I want to change in this relationship: I want to see her more often I want to have sex with her, of any type I desire I have taken her virginity and we have had intercourse around 5 times, however that was early on and she will no longer consent due to her renewed religious convictions. I still perfom cunnlingus on her though (I'm damn good at it too). Last year I was charged with growing marijauana, but I'm fighting the charges since the police obtained the search warrant fraudulently. She was completely surprised, but still stayed with me. Although she has now become much more disapproving about me drinking or getting high (which I've had to quit as part of my release condtions anyhow). I tried showing her why her faith in Islam is misplaced, in hopes that without her faith we could have a 'normal' dating relationship. I tried to show her that Islam was created by Arab rulers to unify and strengthen their empire in the 7th century, that there is plenty of evidence that shows that Islam is a fabricated man-made religion like Christianity, I even got her to read a book called "Why I am Not a Muslim"-by Ibn Warraq (she said the book was all lies and dismissed it, good 'ol denial). So that failed, worth the try though. When I fell in love with her, she told me she was willing todo anything I wanted sexually once married (I asked specific examples), but now says she will only do what Islam allows. She is also now against blowjobs as she thinks its gross. I'm not quite done researching what Islam allows, but so far: Pre-ejaculatory fluid is considered dirty and must be avoided, thus blowjobs are allowed only until that fluid starts coming out... so not very long of a blowjob. Cunnlingus is allowed only before intercourse, however once again, pre-ejaculatory fluid is to be avoided. Sperm is considered clean, but it is not to be swallowed as that wastes it, however this is contradictory reasoning seeing as... Coitous interuptus, or 'pulling out' is allowed. Titty fucking and just humping her thigh is ok You can place a finger on her anus but not insert it Anal sex is not allowed, as it is considered dirty No sex during her period (I'm willing to in the shower, or to finger her wearing a latex glove) Birth control is allowed, but only to DELAY pregnancy Vasectomies and hystromecties are forbidden In general Islam prohibits things that are considered 'unclean', mainly meaning bacteria, which of course makes no sense in regard to pre-ejaculatory fluid. The Quran is VERY specific that Muslim women must only marry Muslim men (while Muslim men can marry Christians, Jews and Zorostarians). She wants: To wait until after my court crap is over before asking her parents for permission to marry her, which if they say 'no', then its all over. Having criminal charges and being a white atheist makes me think 'no' is the likely outcome. If they say 'yes', then we are engaged for a year and then we get married and then we can have sex. Only have sex Islam allows although shes against blowjobs. Me to never eat pork, drink, or get high. To goto religious get togethers with her family. Travel to Pakistan with her to visit her relatives. She doesn't want me to have a vasectomy, and still partially wants to have one child of her own, rather than to just adopt. What I'm doing/want: I'm not waiting a year for the court crap to resolve, I'm asking her parents in two weeks, shes not happy about it, but I'm not waiting anymore. I got her to agree to sex during the engagment. I want sex Islam bans, shes already going against Islam by marrying an atheist, whats taking it up the ass and sucking dick compared to that? I'm not going to stop eating pork, drinking alcohol, or smoking weed, I never agreed to stop, and as long as I don't bring it up or do it around her I should be in the clear. I worked extra hard to avoid my families religious gatherings, I'm not crazy about hanging out with hers. But I have to make some compromises so this will be one of em I'm guessing. (I don't even celebrate Christamas or birthdays either, although we celebrate her b-day) I don't want to goto Pakistan, we could be killed because of our marriage, so either I prove its too dangerous or go there heavily armed. I want a vasectomy and to only adopt children. She is very kind to me, doesn't like fighting or yelling and gets really sad if she thinks I'm mad at her (which I'm usually not but she always thinks I am). I'm not romantic at all, I do not spend money on her as I beleive that 'affection' is all that two lovers need, she on the other hand is not affectionate. She has NEVER started to kiss me or hug me first, she only reciprocates, she doesn't even hug or kiss her parents. She also loves to talk on the phone, and after two years of talking almost every day for 1-4 hours (2.5 average) we've run out of things to discuss, she insists on talking though. I'm planning to be unusually romanitic in the week before asking her parents, in order to help calm her nerves (shes stressed out about me asking her parents). I have lots of free time but not much spare $$$ so any ideas would be great. Mainly she wants something to remember be by, if I died or if her parents say 'no'. I've never given her flowers and she goes on about them often, so I was thinking of preserving a single rose and placing it in a glass vase. Although I'm asking for her parents permission to marry, I will be proposing to her AFTER we've had sex and I'm certain that I can promise to be with her for the rest of our life together. I take promises seriously so I havn't given her my word yet since I need to know how we -click- sexually. During intercourse that we did have, she just laid there and it was painful for her since I'm too well endowed for the size of her uterus, kind of silly to marry someone who sex will always be painful for. I've read that women adjust to the size of their partner, so hopefully that happens. I'm just hoping someone has some good advice for my situation.