Picture this: * you're about 4 yrs older than the girls on average * you are a minority (ethnically)....you make up part of the 20% statistic * you're a graduate student.....the girls are undergrads * you lost all your friends that you made as an undergrad to the corporate machine; you have to start all over again, and you don't have a social life YET * most of the hot girls that you're interested in happen to be in sororities * you have a serious cockblock alert in your class: frat boys; the sorority chicks automatically choose to sit with the frat boys because they already have "social proof" * you're 5'8" but the frat boys are 6'1" * you work out, but you're about 6 months off from your idea body * you're speak/act confident and you have the body language all done correctly......but these girls don't even notice you because they're so busy talking to mister backwards hat (embroidered with greek symbols) Do you see the picture i paint? Okay, that's my situation. I have these hot girls in my class that I want to get to know as FRIENDS. HOWEVER, in order to actually get acquainted with them outside-of-class, I have some serious game to spit--------game that I don't have YET. Keep in mind that these girls ALREADY have fantastic/fulfilling social lives. If they're bored, they can easily call out 4 girls to hang out with and get drunk with. If they're feeling lonely, they can simply sleep over at the nearest Alpha Caca Epsilon "house". I'm not going to lie. I don't hold wild drinking parties every thursday/friday, and I need to make new friends again. I can't just tell a girl "hey come hang out with my friends and I etc etc"........because the "friends" are not there yet. What are my options? What are key selling points? Where's my "social proof"? What can I offer these women that the fratboys can't? WHY should they even bother with me? Confidence/Game-spitting can only get so far here....AGAIN, i want to make FRIENDS----not dates. giveme your best advice thanks!