way back in 2003 or 04 so I made a post about my relationship going to shit, and i remember getting some of the best advice from some of the folks here. Luckily, the problems were worked out (or so I thought) now yrs later, I am yet again facing the shittiest situation anyone could ever face. My wife of 5 years and S.O of 7 has decided to move out. this was after a month of trying to "see if she could let go of some issues" Sadly she is set to leave on Saturday, and I am left to find my own way from there on out. Is this a divorce? she says it may not be, but i cant help it to think she is just saying this to make me feel better about the situation. Over the past few years things werent so great, weve had our fair share of issues but I never thought they would be this bad, not bad enough to warrant her leaving me and asking for a divorce... this has made ting much much harder to swallow and while i have to realize this is the way it will end it doesnt make it any easier. I have this huge guilt over the failure of my relaitonship, I have failed my little girls, my wife and myself. I mean it takes 2 people to let this happen and we both bare the guilt here but i cant help it to feel like the lowest piece of shit right now. Ive lost my house Im in danger of loosing my car My family has gone to shit My little girls will not be with me as much as they have always been The house: I have been giving her the money for the payments, at least my half of it and 2 days ago i found out we had been getting certified letters in the mail about foreclosure. thing was she hasn't made a fucking payment since Feb and has kept the pink slips for the cert. letters so I had not been aware of them. My car, same deal: my money was going directly to the bill account she handled the bills, and now my car is well past 3 months back, I am now stuck having to make higher payments to get caught up on it if I am even able to keep it. My kids: i have the ability to work 3 and 4 12 hour shifts at my job, this gave me mon-wed free to spend at home with my girls, for the last 3 years ive been doing that, and now that will end. not only is that eating me up inside but after having spent so much time with them its almost like someone is ripping a piece of me away. and biy does that suck. She is stuck at work 12-18 hours a day, to her it was so we could have everything we wanted but honestly I could have doe without all of it, so long as she was home with us more often. Im confused, pissed, irritated, i dont know what to do and i am working on getting an apartment at this moment however, my house will be getting foreclosed on the 2nd, which leaves me no time to get anything done right. I will have to take the day off on saturday to move my stuff out of the house, while she moves to her grandmothers. I guess my question how or what can i do so I dont feel like this, Im tired of feeling like the lowest piece of shit. i mean yes, i had a hand in this but it wasnt all my fault, yet i feel like it is, I get the feeling she wants me to believe that is the way it is. Any advice would be greatly appreciated by this returningOT-noob! thanks!