Background okay, so for the past 2.5 years i had this one girl in my life (i'll just refer to her as Whats Her Face). when i first met Whats Her Face, i was attracted to her so i pursued her. she was attractive and was giving me the attention...we'd talk for hours at a time and she's always be disappointed when i was too busy. good dating signs, yes? well, things got interesting when she started opening up to me about drama with her ex. baaad dating sign. but i was confused by the mixed signals... a couple months later i finally realized i fell into the friendszone with a high-maintenance chick. so for the longest time, being the (pathetic) mr. nice guy, i put up with her shit. it was just an endless cycle of us hanging out, she'd get on my nerves, we have a fight, we make up (no makeup sex), she's less high-maintenance for like a couple weeks, then goes back to bitch mode. it'd just happen over and over again, rinse and repeat, rinse and repeat. basically, she was giving me all the obligations of a boyfriend and i never got ANYTHING in return. it was always me picking her up, driving, changing my schedule to accomodate her. (god, i could go on for hours on the shit i did for her but that's a whole 'nother story.) Realization i look back on the whole thing, particularly asking myself "why the fuck did i put up with her for so damn long??" i came up with two answers: i'm a mr. nice guy that's desperate for attention, so i was willing to do anything to attain that attention. (pathetic. i know now.) compassion can be a bitch. after each fight there was always that little bit of hope saying, "maybe this time will be better...maybe this time will be better..." well, it never got better. Downhill i took her to disneyland for her birthday. all i wanted was to do something special for her. but for some reason, the shit got to her head and she was just pushing my buttons the whole fucking day. it started going downhill from there. slowly but surely, i just started getting irritated by her. then irritation turned to hate. just over the course of a few weeks it got to the point where everything and anything she does -- no matter what it is or what her intentions were -- would just piss me off. life's too short to be pissed off all the time. and clearly this relationship is one-sided. summer happened and she went up north. all of a sudden she went from calling me all the time to only calling me twice...and both times where only to ask me computer questions. at this point, i interpreted that as: the only reason why we hang out and talk so much when she's down here in socal is because i'm a convenience for her. she doesn't really care about me. if she did, she'd call me to see whats up, or how i'm doing. but did she? nope. the moment i'm not a convenience for her, i'm out of the picture. The Drama so i decided to cut all ties with her. but here's the problem: she's friends with all of my friends AND roommates. i knew exactly what was gonna happen...now that i cut off all ties, she just moved down the line to the next available victim -- my friend & roommate, Jim. a little background info on Jim: he's a pussywhipped little bitch too. just like how i used to be, he's willing to do anything and everything for a girl just so that he has a girl to talk to. he has a long track record of doing this in the past. its pathetic...but i have a little sympathy for him because that was me not too long ago. so i respectfully told all of my roommates the situation. "this apartment is my place of comfort. at the end of a hard day, this is where i come home to so i can relax. i don't want drama and awkwardness here. i don't want Whats Her Face here." but since Jim is pussywhipped, he brought her over 3 TIMES. each time i respectfully and in a civilized manner (not cursing or raising my voice) reminded him. by the third time he brought her over (he tried to sneak her past me), i was furious. A) i hate the bitch. B) he knows i hate the bitch. C) i leveled with him respectfully and in a civilized manner. D) he broke a promise not to bring her here. The End? so fast forward a week. Jim comes to me to talk. he mentioned how he was in his room the other day and he heard me talking about the whole situation with our other roommate. he finally realized that he was causing unnecessary drama for the apartment, so he apologized. he acknowledged that he tried to sneak her past me the past couple times. because he came to me, i told him that i'll tell him my weekend plans (like when i go home for the weekend) and he can bring her as long as i'm not here. he tells me that he's taking things "day by day" with her. i'm sorry but given his track record of being the pusywhipped mr. nice guy, that just translates to: "i like her. and she must like me because she's hanging out with me all the time. i think i have a chance." before i didn't tell him exactly what i went thru with her. i have all the emails and chat logs to show him her true colors...but out of respect for her, i won't. i believe that private conversations should stay private. the problem for Jim was he didn't understand WHY i was so adamant about not having her here. so i finally told him some of the things that happened. he says, "well i think she's changed, i haven't noticed anything like that yet." so i'm wondering...did she change? did she finally realize what she was doing that made me cut things off? or is Jim just blinded by his pussywhipped mr. nice guy mentality? regarding my other friends, they all know whats up. they respect me as a bro which is why they've eased back on hanging with her. but Jim still brings her over (to the apartment next-door). i know my homies just wanna remain neutral about the whole thing, and i feel bad that they're getting brought into this whole drama...i dunno what can be done to make the whole situation easier. i know that Whats Her Face is talking shit about me because it gets relayed back to me...and that shit just drives me up the wall. i'm not exactly sure why i'm posting this...maybe its just to vent. but if OT Asylum Crew has anything to say, i'd love to hear it. Cliffs: got rid of high-maintenance bitch but she still hangs with many of my friends. her newest pussywhipped victim is my roommate. he thinks she likes him. she's just using him because she can no longer use me.