Hi, I just finished my second year of being a roommate with a friend that I've known since grade school. He never was a great friend on an emotional level, he's really repressed about his feelings and doesn't show much. We're into a lot of the same things so that was the basis of our friendship. Well, after living with this kid for 2 years, I've determined he's a total dick, and here's why... Any time anything goes sour with my girlfriend - the smallest of arguments even - and he'll text her / instant message her / call her and lay into me. It's really old and it's been going on for longer than I care to know. He constantly tells her that I'm a terrible person, that he can't believe anyone can put up with me, that she should break up with me. That type of stuff. He takes any and everything he can and bends it against me. I've seen the instant messenger convo's... to me it's really obvious what he's doing. He'll ask her about something she knows she cares about - like did I go to her swim meet. If she says yeah, he doesn't say another word. If she says no, he'll find some way to say that I'm a terrible boyfriend, why would she go out with me, obviously I don't care about her, blah blah blah. When he gets drunk, he calls her and says stuff to her, like I'm cheating on her, or that I put on cologne so I must be trying to get some women. Long distance relationships are hard enough - this guy's just throwing so much more crap into it. He usually trys to get her to hang out with him alone when he's in town - go see movies, have dinner, that sort of stuff. All of this - and I've lived with him for the last two years. He just thinks I'm oblivious to it all, and he never curbs it. I let him know that the whole calling her and telling her I'm cheating on her was a dick move and he shouldn't do it again, but he continues to talk down about me to her. Unfortunately, I don't think his trash talking stops with my girlfriend. Mutual friends have made comments like "That's one of the things he says he can't stand about you..." Wtf... I don't go around talking about him, I don't tell people that he's a bad person or that he's a dick or anything like that. I just keep my cool and try and be mature about it. Here's what I've done so far: I'm definitely never going to room with him again, it was a mistake to do it for a second year, and a mistake in the grand scheme of things to room with someone I knew in my first year of college. I've talked to my girlfriend about him, I told her I'm not really comfortable with her talking to him. She avoids talking to him, but I know he still sends her crap about how much he can't stand me, or how weird I apparently am, or whatever. I have a feeling he isn't going to stop. Ever. Even though I won't be living with him next year, I'll still see him around at school and we have a lot of mutual friends that I'm not going to abandon. So as much as I'd like to eject him from my life, it's not feasible. What should I do about this guy? I feel like no matter what I do to distance myself from him, he's still going to be a dick and talk down about me every chance he gets.