When i met my bf a year ago he smoked, and i thought it was really disgusting. He told me he wished he had never started and i understand how he feels because my father is 43 and has been struggling to quit smoking since I was born, probably even before then. Anyways, my bf now has rather bad teeth, which can be a turn off, and other things that i cant stand like the Smell of cigarettes in his hair, on his clothes, and on his breath. A few months into the relationship we made an agreement that he would only have one smoke a day. For several months he did that, well most of the time. Sometimes he would beg and beg for a second smoke, if something was upsetting him or he was really excited. What really hurt is when I asked him to put a cigarette out, he would try to get in as many puffs as he could before i got mad and put it out for him. I have even pulled over the car on the side the interstate and physacally taken his cigarette and thrown it out the window for him, because he couldnt seem to be mentally and physically strong enough to do it himself. He has upset me greatly doing things like this. He refuses to use any method to help him quit, such as smoke away or the patch. I do understand that they dont work that well, but they do HELP. His excuse is that he doesnt like taking pills, that they always get stuck in his throat. Which could be true, because he didnt even take ibuprofen when he dropped a 500lb air compressor on his leg... Coming up on October 16 is our 1 year anneversary. I told him he has until then to quit, and if he doesnt, I'm leaving. I'm very serious too. He also knows i see right through his attempts to hide it from me. Like last night for instance, he comes inside, and I can smell it on his breath, very strong. I've been around cigarettes since i was a baby, and i know the smell when i smell it. He tried to lie to me, for 10 minutes. I said "the more you lie to me to cover up when you smoke behind my back, the more likely i'm going to leave you when oct 16 comes..." Going behind my back is a very bad mistake, because i always know when he does it. He eventually admitted it, further proving my point at how useless it is to lie to me about something like smoking a cigarette. Anyways. Last night he claimed that was his last one, ever. I have a very hard time beliving him....because 1. he works with my dad, and my dad probably offers him all the time, at least i know he works around 2nd hand smoke all the time... 2. he goes behind my back all the time, even after i tell him how much that hurts me and that i will find out every time Should i believe him? I have tried everything, talking about it, being nice, asking him, then to begging him, getting furious, taking physical action (such as ripping apart a pack of his smokes), to threats of leaving him. i dont know what to do, but i am 100% serious about leavin on October 16 if he doesnt really quit. I've told him to use aids to quit smoking, but he refuses. If he thinks Cold-turkey is gonna work for him, then good luck to him, i know it wont work. But regardless, i'm outta here if he doesnt do it. Do you think me leaving is too big of a reaction to him not quitting or is it what i need to do to prove to him that i'm serious. I do not want to live with someone who puts something so nasty into their bodies. I have already noticed his lungs are starting to feel the effect. I'd have to say about every day he walks around hacking up lungers and clearing his throat and coughing. He is only 23 years old, and i want him to stop while he still can, before he ends up like my father. I love him and I want to see him get better.