a little story for everyone. i had been sleeping with this girl for about 5 weeks. we had sex a total of maybe 15 times. we used condoms about 3-4 times, but then stoped because she is was on orthro-evra, aka the patch. i get a call from her one night, she tells me that she is pregnant. she took two otc tests and they both came back positive. she tells me that she is unsure what she wants to do right now. she is 24, has her own job, and is financially and mentally capable of having a child at this time in her life. hearing the news, i pretty much go into shock and tell her we should meet up the next day to talk things over. she says that is a good idea, and that she has a doctor's appointment in two days. i told her i believe strictly in a woman's right to choose, and i will support her as best i can, whatever her decision. the amount of stress that i was feeling was unbelievable. i can't sleep, can't think straight. i only have a 2 close friends i can really talk to about this. i cannot even begin to imagine what kind of pain she was going through. i am only 22 years old. was i really ready to be a dad? i don't even know where i will be in a year, i dont want to be absent for my first child's life. all these crazy thoughts going through my head. we just started seeing each other, i barely know this girl. we have this situation to deal with, the life of another person in our hands. so i meet up with her to talk. i am relieved to hear that she thinks abortion is the best option. it also made me sad to think that i will never get to know this person which i helped create. she claims she was using the patch correctly, so i am not sure if we are both just extremely fertile. i didn't want to press the issue too much, because we had more important things to talk about. we both agree that we should work on getting to know each other as friends instead of just getting together to have sex. she goes in the next day to have the abortion done. it was still within the first 8 weeks, so she opted for the pill method. Basically she takes a pill which kills the fetus. later, she places another pill inside of her to make her have a miscarriage. just thinking about such a thing made me sick to myself, how can she be dealing with all this. she had to get an ultrasound done to verify the pregnancy, that must have been the worst part. basically everything goes well at the doctors, and she goes home to recover. so that weekend, i went to her house and took care of her. she had a lot of cramps, and was pretty weak from all the pain pills they gave her. we got some good time to get to know each other better. and it made me feel good that i could help her get through all this as much as i can. so lesson learned, dont think that birth control is always 100% effective. i was that .07% or whatever, and it made my life hell. i never want to be put in this situation again without being prepared to handle it. use multiple methods of birth control until you both know each other well enough to deal with the consequences of sex such as pregnancy and STD's.