Avenger97
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oh man.. dont even know where to start with this one.. been driving me crazy for a few days now , but today is the worst it has ever been. Basically myself and my GF of almost 3 years have broken up , over money and the fact that she doesnt respect me at all.. this was around the start of September. she still has the duplex that we rented out , and i have moved back to my parents . It was getting insanely difficult to get by , due to her lack of working , or being under-employed ( IE: pizza delivery, waitessing jobs making maybe 100 bucks a week) . I was shouldering most of the financial burden of the house
Finally got to where i just coudlnt handle it.. the money was getting to where im not paying my car loan , let my car insurance exprire , cell phones got shut off , her car got repossessed by the bank ( her car in only that she drove it , i got it for her , under my name and credit , with the agreement she'd pay for it every month) . and added to the mix , was working my ass off all week , and still being stuck home , with her kids , on the weekends , as she was out partying with her friends.
so after one pretty explosive fight , i was gone .. tried to at least talk to her.. but she made no effort at all..i held up to my agreemnt that id pay the sept rent ( it was late , and we had to get it paid she scraped together 300 , i paid 1000 , for a total of 1300) so again my car / car insurance and all that doesnt get paid.. and i live in paranoia , that my car is gonna get repo'd ( it happened once this summer to my car .. thankfully my family bailed me out , and i got it back) so i struggle through the rest of hte month with no money.. as she continues to go out with her friends on the weekends
here we are now.. i got paid today.. and she immidiately wants 800 bucks for her rent.. im like hell no.. im still paying off bills for you.. and i need to pay my car / insurance/ cell bill now.. everything is already very very late , and it needs to get done
end up arguing all night.. and into the morning.. she tells me she is going to the bank, and will write a check , and get the money ( she aparently had a check from my accnt)so i transferr money around , and pull the remaining out, so she cant do it.. all i have been getting is harrassed all day.. calling all my numbers ( personal cell , work cell ,work desk) telling me how bad i am for doing this to her and her kids.. and her grandmother is dying , and im just adding.. and a bad person , and im ruining this and that.. and she doesnt feel anything for me anymore..and told me straight up , that she doesnt care what consequences i have to deal with ( loss of car , job , etc ) i should pay her rent
im about to lose my fucking mind.. and i know this will not stop anytime soon.. i have in a few moments of weakness almost given in.. but i just cannot let her ruin me any further..
so yea.. what do i do.. how do i stop this from controlling my days.. its just drivng me absoloutely nuts.. i dont want to hurt her , or her kids..but i have to put myself and my needs 1st right now.. or i'll be a lot worse off
Finally got to where i just coudlnt handle it.. the money was getting to where im not paying my car loan , let my car insurance exprire , cell phones got shut off , her car got repossessed by the bank ( her car in only that she drove it , i got it for her , under my name and credit , with the agreement she'd pay for it every month) . and added to the mix , was working my ass off all week , and still being stuck home , with her kids , on the weekends , as she was out partying with her friends.
so after one pretty explosive fight , i was gone .. tried to at least talk to her.. but she made no effort at all..i held up to my agreemnt that id pay the sept rent ( it was late , and we had to get it paid she scraped together 300 , i paid 1000 , for a total of 1300) so again my car / car insurance and all that doesnt get paid.. and i live in paranoia , that my car is gonna get repo'd ( it happened once this summer to my car .. thankfully my family bailed me out , and i got it back) so i struggle through the rest of hte month with no money.. as she continues to go out with her friends on the weekends
here we are now.. i got paid today.. and she immidiately wants 800 bucks for her rent.. im like hell no.. im still paying off bills for you.. and i need to pay my car / insurance/ cell bill now.. everything is already very very late , and it needs to get done
end up arguing all night.. and into the morning.. she tells me she is going to the bank, and will write a check , and get the money ( she aparently had a check from my accnt)so i transferr money around , and pull the remaining out, so she cant do it.. all i have been getting is harrassed all day.. calling all my numbers ( personal cell , work cell ,work desk) telling me how bad i am for doing this to her and her kids.. and her grandmother is dying , and im just adding.. and a bad person , and im ruining this and that.. and she doesnt feel anything for me anymore..and told me straight up , that she doesnt care what consequences i have to deal with ( loss of car , job , etc ) i should pay her rent
im about to lose my fucking mind.. and i know this will not stop anytime soon.. i have in a few moments of weakness almost given in.. but i just cannot let her ruin me any further..
so yea.. what do i do.. how do i stop this from controlling my days.. its just drivng me absoloutely nuts.. i dont want to hurt her , or her kids..but i have to put myself and my needs 1st right now.. or i'll be a lot worse off