I have the most wonderful boyfriend in the world. I'm 23, and he's 27, and we are completely in love and (aside from a few road bumps) completely perfect for each other. He's incredibly smart, talented, and driven, and he's incredibly loving and sweet always. I'm pretty high maintenance (don't get me wrong... he is too), and somehow our craziness and difficulties just fit. We're so lucky to have each other, and we both thrive on seeing each other excel and making each other happy. In this last year during the recession, he's managed to secure three promotions and a substantial pay increase (all on his own merits). He's about two years out of his master's program, and he's gone from entry to director level. It's pretty amazing and inspiring. He made a bad career move back on October. His new company offered him false promises and recruited him into a position that was a step back rather than a step forward. He did everything right: he researched the company, had several extensive interviews, and negotiated. The company blatantly lied to him, telling him that he would receive a substantial quarterly bonus. It wasn't in his offer letter because they were "finalizing the commission structure." He's brought the bonus up several times with his bosses and HR, and he's been told that he is guaranteed the bonus and not to worry. Today, HR informed him that the bonus structure never actually existed. He's working about 75 hours a week, and this news just pissed him off. He's been torturing himself about this job. Like me, he's a perfectionist, and he feels that he has ruined his life by taking this job. He feels that he will never advance and that he'll never make the money that he wants to make. I remind him that he's 27 and that he has his brains and ambition as his strongest professional assets. Unfortunately, he's still hard on himself, and he's been working nonstop and just depressed. Worst of all, he works from home (the company is based out of the East Coast with a small West Coast Team), and he's just barricaded for 24 hours a day, except for when he's visiting clients. He's in NJ right now where the company is headquartered (we live in California). He's been pretty pissed off, and things have become very heated and confrontational between him and his company. My experience and belief tells me that his company is going to dick him over and fire him. This company is honestly horrible. He doesn't want to stay at the company, but I know him well, and I know that being fired would just devastate him. He has a lot of financial obligations. I am several months out of college, and I do not make a whole lot of money (not to mention, I have a killer student loan). He has two dogs, and I pay less than half of the rent for our house (he needs the house for the yard for his dogs). Rent here is more than half my income, and I definitely can't cover it while he's unemployed. He's more than understanding of my situation. Graduating into a shitty economy was NOT easy for me. I found a job that I absolutely love and that pays me well, but let's face it: entry level work is not glamorous... especially when there's limited work for new hires in my industry. My goal is to make more money, but I probably won't make enough until I finish at least one grad program (I've applied to a Master's program for next Fall, and I'll likely get a JD or MBA after). My boyfriend wants to get his MBA so badly, but he's waiting for me to get through a master's program and become more stable so that I can stand on my two feet. I fully intend to go wherever he goes and support him through his MBA program as much as I possibly can (and when he's through, I'll be on to graduate school #2). I'm sad that he can't apply to a top MBA program right now. He is waiting another year to apply so that we can stay together. In the mean time, I want him to stay strong and persist. If he doesn't, he will fail or at least set himself back. He has a lot going on in his personal life too. His wife left him about a year and a half ago, and he was left with the burden of her debt, her high maintenance dogs, and lots of other financial obligations. It was so incredibly messed up. He has come out of it all the stronger, and we have the dogs with a functional set up, and he's getting on his feet too. I'm worried that he's beginning to lose sight of how awesome he is. How do I keep him confident and motivated, especially since we might experience a lot of financial hardship in the not so distant future? In all honesty, I think he can get a job ASAP as soon as he tries. He's just so worn down from his current job (asshole boss, asshole people, blatant lies). I want him to be happy, and I want him to find something that makes him happy and that he loves. I keep telling him to work in the Internet industry (I'm in the Internet SEM/SEO industry). I love it, and I think he'd love it too. Sorry for the long post. Thank you to those who respond.