I've been with my gf...well, I guess my "ex-gf" now for almost 3 years, just a month shy of it. We got into an argument back a month or so ago and it was about our future. I want to be with her as in marry her and have a child with her, and she wants the same...except we want things at different times. She is looking to have that happen soon, but I'm just not ready for it. Today she told me she was jealous of this couple we know that just got married that are around our age, early 20's, and the girl got pregnant and she's jealous. I told her right now is not the time because she's got a full time job, but not making near enough money to support a family and she's still going to school and I don't have a permanent job, even though my part time job makes a fair amount of money. I want to be able to provide for my family and my kid when I have one, but she just wants to get married to start a family. I find it impossible because of the money issue at the moment. If I had a permanent job and she had a better one, then I can see things working out. Anyway, she broke up with me because she feels I'm holding her back. I just don't understand her logic and I try to question her about it. I'm not sure if I should just let it go and move on or what. We have had little problems every now and then but end up working it out and still being together. I just don't know what to do. I have never been in a serious relationship like this before so I've never had to break up. I keep re-writing my sentences as well because I don't even make sense. Basically she doesn't want to be 30 years old (which she's 8 years from) and then having a kid. She wants to begin her married life and family life soon and I don't know when that will be for me. Could be a couple years, 5 years, possibly longer. It all depends on when the time is right for me. I'm just in a state where I don't know what to do and I'm hurt.