So, I've been going out with this girl for a little over 2 months, but we've known each other for a few years. Most of our friends are mutual (we hang out with the same people) and I do like her, and I don't want to hurt her...but I don't think that we're as good of a match as I originally thought. History I always thought she was attractive and fun, and she is. We started going out and it was great at first. Really great, I kinda fell for her and she fell for me. We did the "I love you" thing and it started going downhill shortly after that. She started wanting me to skip participating in events that I had been involved with for years, she wasn't happy about me joining the ARNG after college (which she knew was happening before we started going out), and she became jealous and kind of clingy. It has to the point now where she gets upset and gives me what I can only describe as the sad puppy-dog eyes (the sad look, like I just told her I hated her) if I don't spend every night at her apartment. Here's the rub, I still care for her a lot and I don't want to hurt her. I also don't want to cause a major rift in our group of friends, but its become obvious that if I date someone -- I will need her to be much more independent and accepting of my life as is.