Well my current and I are approaching our 4 month on the 24th here. We are at the stage where we can say "I love you" openly and mean it. Now I have trust issues from previous ex's who have cheated etc. and I told her how I wouldn't like the idea of her going to the clubs without me. That turned into a talk about my ex's. She let slip that she had read something about my "sorta ex" and that was my alert that she had read my facebook msg's. She also said she looked through many pics of the "sorta ex" and I, and that they were on my facebook but I have yet to delete, the permissions are set for my view only. When I confronted her comments that uncovered the fact that she had been going through my messages. I asked her how she knew some particular info and she txt'd me "What. I already told u. Leave it alone. I was just telling you it seemed like more and yes it seemed that way but now you're making that an issue". The issue is that she asked about a previous girl I was seeing, that she knows, and I never told her much about it because it was none of her business. I never lie, I just limit what I tell ppl with regards to things that are in my past and have no relevance to the current relationship. The issue I was pushing for was how she knew about me not talking to my "sorta ex" and that the "sorta ex" wanted me back, she lied and told me not to worry about how she got the info, and said she didn't go through my facebook and read it somewhere else. When she got mad for all the millions of pictures I have up, which I don't since I've restricted access to "only me" that was my second clue to know something was up. She proceeded to use defensive reasoning and began to hang up on me, not answer, and get mad @ me for something she did. Obviously she was guilty because she started to project her negative self image onto me. When she finally admitted fault I went on a rampage of txt msg's to her and these are her any my replies: ME: "you read my msg. that's the only way you would know what that said. or see the pictures. you betrayed my trust and now you're lying to my face and you wont answer". HER: "Will you even have time later? I want to do everything i can to fix this but I just want you to know that it is very unfair that u only had 1% trust in me in the 1st place. I understand where ur coming from n i would be upset if you lied to me too but i feel like cuz of ur past ur giving me the severe short end stick. I would not react like this if the tables were turned." HER: "In fact we NEED to talk because i know i was wrong but this situation is completely unfair." ME: "you may think this is unfair but it comes down to respect. It's upsetting to you that you are in this position but you put yourself here. And the tables would not be turned cuz I would never put myself in your position. I never lie I just limit what I tell ppl. You don't need to hear about my ex's cuz really it's non of your business. But because you went behind my back to make it your business, is where the trust was broken. You never thought to ask. We could have sat down like adults, instead you went behind my back, then so easily lied when all i asked for was the truth. So on this we will figure out where to go from here when we talk in person. I'll meet you where ever you are for as long as it takes for this to never happen again. I'm willing to tell you anything, but I'm not willing to just give things up unless asked. You just took and you need to be held accountable for your actions." HER: "That's fair but the degree ur taking it to is not. I know because ive been there and know how i would react.. Ur making it like i always lie n that u can't trust me. I can only say sorry so much cuz I KNOW that I shouldn't have lied n don't know y i did" ME: "Txt msg i'm sorry all you want i wont accept it till I hear it in person and see you say it from your heart" So I'm currently @ work and still plan to hash this out tonight. She thought I didn't trust her because I don't like my g/f going to the club w/o me. I know she wouldn't take anyone home but I don't need some guy who's game is tyte fuckin with my girl when I'm not around to cock block his ass to the dirt. I told her about how I was cheated on many times and lack trust in women so I'm less inclined to have my g/f go to the club w/o me and w/ all her single friends. I never said I didn't trust her but she said that if I can't trust her then I shouldn't be in a relationship. On that note I told her about my ex's a bit more and she let slip some info that was the red flag against her. Her actions of invading my privacy resulted in my trust being broken when I confronted her about it, proving she lied. Was it her that lacked trust in me? Since she was the one to go an invade my privacy and then lie? Perhaps I'm the one who only got the 1% trust. I need some advice, this is a first for me, and furthermore, what she read was a msg so long ago that she had to have gone through many to find what she was looking for. The msg spoke from my "sorta ex" about how she wanted me back and that she was dissapointed about me being with my current who she knows personally. She also wanted to be "friends" still but I didn't even fucking reply back to her cuz well when she was supposed to be with me she fucked some other dood while I was @ Coachella. cliffs: g/f got busted for looking through my facebook restricted WS "only me" access pictures and a msg from my "sorta ex". I confronted her about it, she used defensive reasoning and began to get angry @ me for being upset about the broken trust and invaded privacy, such that if she was in my position she wouldn't react the way I did. On that note I wouldn't put myself in this position in the first place. So give me your advice. I love her and need a fix.