So my bro in law has some serious problems with addictions to various things. He's not the huge problem of mine right now. It's that he keeps asking my husband and I for money. We never give it too him. The he goes to my sister in law. She rejects his ass too. But then he goes straight to mama and she sends him money every single time. She positively refuses to believe that her middle son (my husband the youngest...my sis in law the oldest) has a very serious problem with alcoholism, heroine, and pot. What can we say to her to convince her to at the very least quit shelling out money? Should we even try? Should we let her live in her fantasy world and then try to hide what he knew when the bro-in-law winds up dead?