My older brother is 34. He is an alcoholic and a liar. I don't know when it started, but he has always had his vices. It used to be smoking and drugs, but he stopped smoking (picked up chewing) and from what I know quit drugs (for the most part). He now is an alcoholic and has always been a liar. His lies aren't malicious, they are usually to protect himself from whatever he feels infringes upon what he wants. He could lie to continue to hide his alcoholism. He could lie about a reason he can't take his son for a weekend (divorced). He could lie about his finances. He could lie about what he is doing. He could lie to cover up mistakes. He could lie to appear cool. He could lie for absolutely no reason. He could lie to one person knowing that person knows he is lying. It's extremely annoying. But whatever. That's not the big deal to me. The big one is alcoholism. He already wrecked his SUV drinking and driving and was out again a couple of days later behind the wheel after some drinks. I am to the point that I don't even worry so much about my brother hurting himself, I am more worried about him hurting others. I recently helped get him a job at the company I work for and he didn't even make it through the first week before he missed a day being too hung over for work. He then told our other brother-his roommate-that they let him out early. My younger brother knows he lies so he called me while I was at work about it and I went to the training room to check and saw the class in session. After this we came down on him. Not hard by calling him names, but in concern for his well being. We told him he needs to quit drinking right now and start going to AA meetings, telling him this is something he might always have to do. He does what he always does, said he would quit and seek help but he never does. His non-drinking MAYBE lasted 2 weeks. That's about how long it took for us to bust him, although he did seem a little better in person. That was about 2 weeks ago and he is already back to drinking every night again. I am convinced he will never change. He doesn't want to. He just wants to do what he wants. He skips on seeing his own 6 year old son so he can go out and meet girls and get wasted doing it. He skips work because he is too hung over to go in. He gets behind the wheel of a car despite wrecking at least once. He continually goes negative in his account by overdrafting to support his self destructive lifestyle. He has already gone bankrupt once and lost his home... but he blamed this on his ex-wife. I don't see him ever stopping. The only thing I can think of is an intervention but to be honest I don't think he will ever stop. I don't think anyone can do anything for him except himself, and he really doesn't care that much about anyone else. He acts like he does, but he doesn't. He will tell you and everyone else what they want to hear so he can get people off of his back. he isn't violent, he's very passive, but I really fear he is going to accidentally kill someone else with his destructive behavior. I also fear he will be a bad influence on his son. On top of that, when he does lose this job (when, not if) I see him being a burden on my parents who are getting ready to retire and live out the rest of their lives in the hard earned peace they deserve. They'll probably end up having to bail his ass out of financial hardship. heck, I dread them passing and leaving any money to him. Not out of any desire for more inheritance myself, but because I know what he will do with it. Totally at a loss.