OK I have this problem. When it comes to certain things I have a problem just being myself, because I'm worried about what people think. For example. Music. When it comes to music I like a large variety, but mostly I listen to obscure stuff that most people don't know. For example I like Nordic death metal bands, and Japanese rock music. However my friends fucking hate it, I can't have somebody ride with me in my car without them asking me to please shut off the "crap music". So more and more, I kind of assimilate, just for the sake of fitting in. Same thing goes for clothes. I go to college at a large university (20,000 students). Normally I like to look good and dress up. For example, a nice polo shirt, designer jeans, nice watch and nice leather boots. However, wearing that kind of stuff at school makes me feel seriously out of place. I'm already older than most of my class mates (23 year old sophmore) and I feel like I'm the Overdressed Older Guy since everyone is in hoodies, sweatpants, and sneakers. Alot of the hotter girls on campus dress up just for class (high heels, nice tops, etc) but I never see any guys do it other than me. So more and more I dress in that college casual attire like hoodies, and tshirts and stuff like that, which I really don't like wearing that much. So anymore I feel like I can't tell the difference between being myself, and being what I think everyone want's me to be, and the two are at conflict. Part of me really wants to just say "Fuck what people think, I'm gonna do my own thing" but at the same time part of me is saying "You don't want that hot chick to not like you because you listen to death metal". So I dunno what to do, anyone have any advice/insight/comments/criticisms?