I've been in a pretty solid relationship for about a year and a half now. We've had our ups and downs, learned a lot from each other, and are generally solid. Our sex life is pretty good...we have sex a few times a week. Her sex drive tends to be stronger than mine; more accurately, she wants to have sex with me more often than I do her. This could be due to a number of things...anyhow... I've always checked out other girls while in relationships. I've fantasized about other girls as well. I'd see a hot girl, wonder what she looks like naked, etc. etc. Sometimes I might stupidly make a comment around the gf. I think the biggest problem is the frequency. It happens A LOT. Anywhere I go...if I'm driving and see a girl running, if I'm at the store, anywhere...it's like I HAVE to look and check them out, and then I might think something sexual. I think it's pretty natural for men to check out women, but it's the frequency and intensity of it that worries me. I haven't been with a lot of women. I'm 26 years old and my "count" is just under the double digits. I feel like I haven't gotten a lot of attention from women in general, and now when I do (from women other than my gf), it excites me. Sometimes it makes me think, "would things be different if I were single, i.e. would we hook up?" So...questions. Should I be in this relationship, or am I hurting my girlfriend behind her back with all the checking out that I'm doing? Am I too young to really settle down? And if I were single, would I even be able to work my magic and get with these girls? You know, grass is always greener. Sorry...this post is a massive jumble. Hard to really put this into words. Cliffs: I'm in a relationship and I'm constantly checking out other girls and thinking sexy thoughts. Am I a scumbag or am I just a guy?