Discussion in 'Vaginarium' started by 2397, Mar 5, 2015.
What up party peeps?
Not too much a lot of thinking lately about where my life is headed versus where I want it to go
I remember when you were just a young dumb kid trying to fuck anything that walked
Look at you now. All philosophical and pondering and shit. I've been on this forum way too long
A bit of shit going on in my life, but I'm smart and make sure it never gets to the internet
Other than that my husband and I will hit 15 years next week, still going strong.
We've definitely changed as individuals over the last 5 years. But it's a double edged sword really. I'm more accepting of him and his limitations regarding his illness and what I would consider limitations in regards to his personality (total opposite of me, introvert, hermit, etc etc) however it has been seen as coldness and pulling away. I've also taken on board his suggestion that I 'find myself a hobby' or at least find something that brings me enjoyment that doesn't require him. I now socialise a lot more with friends and I've been told that he also feels like we've not grown apart, but we're less dependant on each other than we were.
Be careful what you wish for and all that
But in saying the above, we're still as committed and in love as ever. It's just interesting to see the way our relationship has changed over the 15 years we've been together. The scientist in me really wants to see where we go from here I could never have predicted any of this 10 years ago. I was so naive.
It saddens me when I hear stories like JJJs, but I totally understand it
Marriage is a crazy ride. Not something any person's advice or any book could have prepared me for. It's everything they say, but not in the way you think. Same with being a parent. It's like describing sex to someone who has never had it. They might think they get what you're saying, but they don't. It's like someone saying "whatever you do, don't buy a green car" and you're like "okay, no green cars, got it" except you're color blind and then when you experience it (sex, marriage, being a parent, etc.) you can see color and it's like "ooooh, that's green? damn". Anyway, that has been my experience.
Too bad this place is so dead now. I think it would be nice to talk to you all more regularly like we used to. My life is so different now.
Going on a vacation to a cabin in North Carolina with my boyfriend this weekend
I asked you not to tell everyone about my cabin
How big is the cabin? Want some company?
2 bedroom with a loft
We had a blast! Sadly we came back and immediately have to face his cat dying with stage 4 kidney failure.
Sounds like you could have used some company. Sorry to hear about his cat.
Miss you all <3
If any of you assholes come to the Virginia Beach area for any reason, let me know.
Of course I move here after Dee leaves.
what's up my dudes!?!
huh, wtf folks, did the vag die while I was away?!??!
How's everyone been? Just living the married life. Married back in May of 2015. Preparing to buy a house soon and start part 2 of my family. Now that my daughter is 21 (we took her to Vegas to celebrate it in style ) its gonna be interesting to start over at 37/38.
Still rocking it at adidas. I have a huge photography/graphic design team I manage now. Husband just decided to change careers and I'm being the super supportive wife in his endeavor. He's now a real estate agent in our area that's ridiculously prosperous in the housing market so that's going to be a great fit for him.
other than that, couldn't be happier. Just decided to pop in and say hi!
Seems like it! Dead thread is dead.
A friend of mine now shoots for adidas! She's loving it
did this happen before or after you fell out of love with Emily?
I've entered a similar kind of relationship. Have a primary and we have fuck-buddies... Curious to hear from you
What does everyone think of the new forum?
There are alerts when you get quotes now
A 4 year LTR is like living in your parents house. It feels like yours and it feels like home, but deep down you know it's not and that comes across in how you treat it. If it's your house though, you take it more seriously because you know if you wreck it, you're the one who is going to pay for it.
Our relationship definitely changed when we got married. Not in a drastic way, but in a more intense way. We'd been living together for 5 years when we got married.
Once you have that commitment you're more inclined to make sure it works out. And you know that you're 'stuck' with this person so you need to make sure you both have the best life you can otherwise you're going to be miserable. The 'Well I'll just leave' is removed from the table.
At least it was for me. It does seem like a lot of people still have that as an option when they get married, which is why the divorce rate is so high.
I figure here is the best place to mention my current situation. Hopefully with the new forums comes people out of the woodwork.
So, I matched on tinder with the guy I lost my virginity with. He had no idea who I was at first (wasn't offended or surprised) and dropped some nice words like 'Nope we didn't go to school together I would have remembered someone as good looking as you' *gag*
Anyway, we've met up since and chatted a bit, even made out, and have pretty much been texting back and forth since. He has a much different memory to me of my first time and makes it out to be much more positive than I recall. But he's also said some things like I was nervous and I gave head and it was shit so I really want to go back and prove him wrong. However he's much more charismatic and easy to talk to via text than in person. He was heavily into drugs at school and he's just a little slower in person, which isn't a huge deal. So I think I might go back and relive my first time and it's kind of scary And for some reason I'm really nervous