Cheating gf

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  1. dylix

    dylix New Member

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    long story short.

    gf cheated on me. :wtc: i love her. want to work it out, but is it possible? trust is gone, and now i'm sure i will be stressing out every time she's not with me. :noes:

    should i stay or should i go now? :hsugh:
    if i stay there will be trouble, if i go it will be double. :hsugh:

    she says she's not sure why she did it. but thats bs. there's not anything missing from the relationship, definetly not the sex. i'm confused as hell :hsughno:
     
  2. Cerridwen

    Cerridwen Guest

    it depends on if you think you could ever forgive and forget.
    It's hard. Very very hard. My husband never cheated on me (that he admits) but spent WAY too much time with another woman early in our marriage. It has taken a couple of years (literaly) to finaly not think about that every day let alone every time he goes some place without me.
    It takes a lot of love devotion and dedication and still it might never happen.
    Good luck whatever you do!
     
  3. Dragknee66

    Dragknee66 OT Law Enforcement Crew

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    I hate cheaters.

    Dump her ass... theres plenty more girls in the world
     
  4. Leb_CRX

    Leb_CRX OT's resident terrorist

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    trust IMO is the base of any good relationship

    I wouldn't stick around
     
  5. gookarachie

    gookarachie New Member

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    A couple of questions to ask your self.
    1) Do you see a long lasting relationship with her?
    2) Could this relationship turn into marrige?
    3) Is everything in the relationship going good escept this?
    4) Does she want to work it out?
    5) What problems do you have with the relationship besides this?
    6) what problems does she have with the relationship?
    7) Do you LOVE her?
    8) Does she LOVE you?

    Just some things to think about.

    Answer theses questions. Then see where you are at. If both of you really wat to work things out it can be done. Its going to take allot of time love and devotion to do it but it can be done.
     
  6. Unicron

    Unicron New Member

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    yup.

    if you don't trust her anymore...just break it off.
     
  7. trm3

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    Its just going to haunt you later in life, its hard to forget......once a cheater always a cheater...

    Whats to say if someone NEW comes by and she leaves you again...

    trust me its the worst feeling to go through it again..im still haunted and bothered by it, i finally decided to leave it.
     
  8. MovieMan84

    MovieMan84 Here we go

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    How old are both of you?

    My gut reaction would be to go forward and find someone new. There's plenty of folks that will respect you, no need to waste your time and effort on one that won't.
     
  9. Go now!!!
     
  10. LS Boy

    LS Boy OT Supporter

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    it only takes a kiss to start cheating and thats when i start kicking (the slut that is)
     
  11. themacstallion

    themacstallion The electric sheep are dreaming up your fate

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    If you stay with her you are no better than she is.
     
  12. JordanClarkson

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    :hug: wtf was she thinking cheating on a l33t hax0r like yourself? :uh:

    it's a lot easier to just take her back and hope that she doesn't cheat again, but that'll just make you seem weak to her. she will surely exploit that. why did she cheat? there's never a reason. cheaters don't feel any guilt until after they cheat. she got caught up in her emotions and unknowingly let her guard down. life sucks, but your identity is much more than a relationship
     
  13. Got_Milf?

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    :ugh:

    If you love her and you're sure she loves you/regrets it, it can work...obviously she'll have to gain your trust back but if you love her it will be worth it.
     
  14. operationrob

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    so what'd she do with the guy? was she drunk? what was her reason?
     
  15. XtremelyCanadian

    XtremelyCanadian I play hockey.....EH

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    Get out of there, you will never forgive her and always hold it against her.

    Find another girl, there are plenty to choose from :bigthumb:
     
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    Once a cheater always a cheater. People do not really change, even if they like to pretend they have. Once she establishs cheating as part of her character, it will only be easier to start again next time. She does not love you or she wouldn't have betrayed you. Simple as that. Anything else is naive BS.

    Beat the whore out of her on her way to the curb. Then move on and quit being such a doormat who is just asking for it to happen again. (forgiving cheater = ok to do it again cuz you're too much of a sucker to do anything about it) Get back your dignity/self-respect and get the fuck rid of her.
     
  17. AstroGirl

    AstroGirl If I don't respond it's because I have severe ADD

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    Hmm, I will have to disagree with most of the posts in here. I think that if you love someone you have more or less made a promise to them. A promise that no matter what you will always love them, and that you will always be there for them. Always is a long time. In that time that person, and you, are bound to fuck up. Just treat others how you would wish to be treated. If you fucked up and cheated, and don't say you never would (never say never), what would you want her to do? Would you want her to drop you like a bad habit? Or stick around and give it another chance?
     
  18. alki

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    mate, listen to your friends here. Love + trust is not something to be toyed with. It's not a broken lamp, a punch in the face, where you can easily forgive an forget. End it already, otherwise you'll suffer paranoia which will also end the relationship. Obviously your heart still wants to hold on, but your mind wants to let go.

    Honestly mate, the sooner you let go, the faster it is to have time do the healing.
     
  19. dylix

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    thanks for all the replies. i'm still torn on what to do, so who knows :\
     
  20. Bruticus

    Bruticus half dead OT Supporter

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    If it was me, she'd be out the door yesterday.
     
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    MovieMan84 Here we go

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    Not sure I see the logic behind this one. Staying with her might be naive, but I think naive is far better than scumbag. :hs:
     
  22. MovieMan84

    MovieMan84 Here we go

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    :ugh:
    I'd say if you love someone it means that at the moment you love them. If you're married, it means you've made a promise to love them unconditionally no matter what happens. I'd say there's no "forever" element implied, but that's just me. Sure there's a commitmeht aspect there, but I don't think being in love necessarily implies an unconditional commitment. She cheated, she's likely to cheat again given similar circumstances, why allow yourself to be opened up to that?
     
  23. BiffHenderson

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    End it. If you don't, this sets the stage for her to walk all over you down the road....be it cheating or doing other crap.

    Once someone cheats (the male or the female) it should be over. End of story.
     
  24. RedVsBlue

    RedVsBlue Penguins > *

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    Leave now and NEVER look back. Once a cheater always a cheater, and you should never and will never be able to trust her the same again. Your life will be more stressful, and its not worth that. She just showed you how much she "loves" you...tell her to fuck off, and stay as far from you as possible.

    You dont even want to be around you, she ended the relationship, not you, so feelings will still remain. Use your brain on this one, not your emotions. DUMP THE CHEATIN BITCH!
     
  25. The Dirty One

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    tell her to beat it
     

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