Chicks with KIDS?

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  1. uwofrost

    uwofrost New Denver Crew

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    Now i have been finding that there are alot of really really hot chicks that have a kid and are fun as hell in bed. So what i am asking is "do you think its wierd to date a girl that has a kid? (Im 24)
     
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    Eh, weird no, but there are lots of reasons to avoid women who already have kids: I wont list them, but I'm sure they'll be posted soon.
    There are also good reasons not count a woman out just because she has kids....
     
  3. antihero

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    I wouldnt let it get serious unless you are actually interested in being a dad. staying uninvolved just doesnt work
     
  4. uwofrost

    uwofrost New Denver Crew

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    She is really hot and a freak in bed.... i just posted how i met her in another thread... (best pickup ever) I dont see it going anywhere really but the sex is great.... would it be worng to try and keep her as a FB?
     
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    My fiance has a son. Best relationship I have ever had. We have never had any issues and have been together about 2 years.

    Getting thrown into a responsible position was a tough adjustment, but a great learning process. Her ex is a pretty decent guy and a good father, so there are no drama issues or other issues with him.

    As some advice, I'd say keep the kid out of your relationship until you progress a little bit. Then introduce him to the idea of it and start to build a bond with him/her. Leave the dealing with the ex to her. Maintain open communication and make sure you discuss what is and isnt aloud with her child.

    Enjoy :naughty:
     
  6. Elphaba

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    Oh so NOOWWWW we get to the heart of the matter.
    Now I ask you: How would you feel about your mom having a FB?
    I mean, if the main issue your thinking about is her kids, then think about it from their perspective (or if they're young, how they might reflect on it later in life...)
     
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    Ignore pretty much everything in my previous post. :hs:
     
  8. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    At 24, no I wouldn't get involved with a girl with a kid.
     
  9. Viper

    Viper Livin' la vida scrotum OT Supporter

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    Red Flag #1 for a girl who has a child:

    She brings you around her child immediately.
     
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  11. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Depends what you want from the relationship. If you want only sex then I don't see how it's weird as long as you make that known upfront. If you want an actual relationship then you just need to realize there's far more baggage (literally) in dating someone with kids and unmarried.

    There's an entire book turned movie called "About A Boy" where the whole original start of the movie is about a guy who purposefully eeks out single women with children to just sleep with because since he's viewed as a "bad boy" the women don't take him seriously as a partner. But instead they love the attention he gives them so they willingly love to sleep with him and then dump him for fear he wants more :mamoru:
     
  12. Viper

    Viper Livin' la vida scrotum OT Supporter

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    A suggestion for you:

    Don't drag men in and out of your kids lives. You should keep the two separate until you see it getting sorta serious (nothing TOO serious, but at least make sure it's not a two week diddy). It's so confusing to the kid to see their mom with a different guy all the time.
     
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    Ok, sorry, I apologize...thats gross. But I was trying to shift his perspective, and with a mental image like that, it worked, no?
     
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    There is some really solid advice in here....

    I have started dating again for the first time in years....I meet all kinds of women....As a personal choice I try to stay away from the ones with kids

    There is just too much drama involved....which sucks, cause I love kids...and being a good mother is a turn on...but I will judge them...if they give me too much time...or neglect their kid...its just bad...Plus then you have ex's...

    To futher add to the twist...I am a father, and my guilt wont allow me to spend more time with someone else's child than my own....my daughter deserves atleast that...

    Good luck with it....go watch jerry maguire...dont be stealin the pussy from single moms....or just be brutally honest....not just honest....it isnt enough...
     
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    Viper Livin' la vida scrotum OT Supporter

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    That's a hurdle that I face too when it comes to dating a girl with kids.

    On the one hand it's hypocrticial to expect a girl to love me AND my kids without sharing that same viewpoint.

    On the other, it'd kinda suck to spend more time with someone else's kid than your own.
     
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    Well, the kid isnt a secret or anything, but she doesnt try to put him in the picture at all. Which is good
     
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    UMM... IF my mom did i would be mad cause she is married to my Dad still... Not all of us are from broken homes like you...
     
  18. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    damaged goods FTL
     
  19. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    i say this because

    A) someone else got them pregnant
    B) that guy did want them
    C) so that means something is really wrong with them.
    D) or she got rid of him... which means
    E) she has no responsibility.... and makes bad decisions about choosing partners.

    kittie and others.... this is a generalization... women of OT are > ** for the most part.
     
  20. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    disagree completely. she is showing she is a good mother and that they are a packaged deal. because they are a packaged deal
     
  21. Viper

    Viper Livin' la vida scrotum OT Supporter

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    It's also hard on the kid to see their mother in and out of men's lives.
     
  22. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    yea well if its first date and the man is just a stranger, it has no impact at all on the kid......
     
  23. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    at least no more than any other person ive met in my lifetime.
     
  24. Viper

    Viper Livin' la vida scrotum OT Supporter

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    Well yeah, but if she is bringing some guy around for 3 months at a clip and the kid gets to know the guy only to have his mom break up with him...well, the break up affects the kid too...especially if he liked the guy.
     
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    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    if you havent met the kids in the first 3 months shes a shitty mom for leaving the kids alone that much
     

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