aight.. so yea i have a now ex GF.. but she is still in my life to a certain extent due to just having multiple bills in either My or our names , so i still need to keep it at least civil with her to get things paid on time .. She's had a rough time of making ends meet , partially due to her not making enough , and i think partially due to her still wanting to hang with her friends all the time and blowin money at the bar. We tried for a few weeks to Rekindle our relationship , and things looked pretty good , but i was having a pretty major issue with her having some 43 year old guy over all the time , though she says its just a friend ( BTW we are both 28). it eventally fell apart again , when i felt i couldnt count on her when i needed her ( short version : in the snow we had here last week my GTO got stuck at a gas station , and i asked her to come and get me , because she was close and should be able to make it in her car ,a AWD Chrysler Pacifica, she didnt want to risk it because the roads were so bad , and i ended up walking about 2 miles in the snow to get to her place, and have my dad come and pick me up in his Dodge Ram , while she was at her 43 year old "friends" house stuck she says) anyway during this time . i said id help her with getting gifts for her kids for christmas , cause without that , the kids would not have a christmas, and even though its her fault for not thinking ahead and saving money, i dont feel the kids should suffer because their mom cant budget money. we hung out for a lil bit , and i dropped about 300 on the kids total (100 per kid). Now i was gonna get the ex GF just a lil somethin for x-mas like a 20 dollar gift card to dunkin donuts or something , just because its christmas , and she was a huge part of my life this year. I know pretty well she wont get me anything , and i really dont expect anything in return, she keeps tellin me not to get her anything as in her words " she doesnt deserve anything from me " so i guess my question is should i just go ahead and do it? get her a lil 20 dollar gift card , or just say forget it , and not get her anything , like she isnt getting me anything??