Ok after evaluating myself on dating women or just approaching them in general I came to realize that it seems I will only talk to those that seem like they will talk to me. I suck at explaining these types of things so I will give an example of what I am talkin about. Two weeks ago there was a game tournament that I attended for a basketball game that I like so I attended. I lost so I went to stand outside to talk with some of my friends and I noticed a "nice looking female" (to my interests anyway) just sitting outside a store along. Now I am far from a pretty boy and I am pretty insecure about my looks. She was looking my way and smiling, naturally with my mentality I assumed she was looking at someone else OR laughing at me. She walks away from where she was sittin and came over to me and said: Her: Why are you punching the air? Me: I lost. Her: Lost what, where did you drop it? Me: No, lost the tournament? I made it to final four but he beat me and I was a lil upset I guess. Her: So what's your name? At this point I am curious why she is talking to me. Not the first time I have talked to a pretty girl but one "rarely" walks up to me and just starts talking to me let alone ask my name! At that point I just tell her my name, get her name, and make up an excuse to get away ( which she didn't know I was doing) and leave to go home. I know I have the means to just walk up to a girl and talk to her and start "something". But it seems that every time a girl walks up to me and tries to talk to me, I avoid her like she is the plague. Am I even confident or am I really insecure about myself? Any type of feedback would be helpful And sorry if this post is stupid confusing.