I have an issue, my boyfriend and I for once in about 5 weeks been able to get together and have a day to be together. We had decided this once that we were going to get a hotel room becuase we wanted to be sexual with each other without getting caught in public places. Though he says he loves to have the thrill of being in public place and being on each other,to me it is all the same box of cookies. So we got our room without a problem, and we started to play around and just be in each others company. We had been discussing this day for so long, we planned everything we wanted to do. Just another added fact we are both virgins and are still waiting for the right moment to share ourselves with each other. We dont want to jump into anything we both arent ready for. We had discussed bondage and me being the submissive which is all well and good with me I love taking that role. We had previously this morning had went to walmart to pick up a few goodies, bubble knee highs and ky. Back to the rest of the day, we continue to play and we have our fun. He binds my hands together and commands me to get on my knees and suck his cock, I dont so oblige him. We are talking the whole time I am asking him to "make" me take him in along with talking dirty to each other. Just to make sure that he doesnt think that he is really making me do something I really dont want to do. But then he stops and move on to something else. Later on in the day we are laying on the bed and he makes me take his cock and sucks it and starts pushing my head down on it (reinforcing to me who is boss) and he made my gag reflex kick in and i stop and cough a couple of times, recover and i continue to get him off by other means. After our fun is through we start talking about the day and he mentions to me that he doesnt want to do do the bondage stuff and being dominant because he is afraid that he is gonna really hurt me and not be able to respond well to it. I tell him that if there was something really wrong and he was hurting me in anyway at all he would know it, we have a safety word set up just in case something is too much for either of us. I really would like some help in how to ease his fears in this area, I love doing this type of activity but I am willing to adjust to him. He keeps me satisfied in every other way possible sexually. He is the most considerate lover I have ever had, he would rather see me satisfied than himself but I make sure that he is as well. I just would like some help in knowing how to handle something like this, we both love each other dearly and we talk about bedroom activities outside of it all the time, partly becuase we live apart right now and are good for seeing each other about once every 5-6 weeks. Sorry for such a long post but without explanation i dont believe some of it wouldnt make any sense. Thank you for any advice in advance.