dealbreakers

so I met this chick last weekend at dinner with a mutual friend. hot and nice and seemed kind of into me. she looked kind of like ginnifer goodwin and I really like that cute hot type of girl so I am thinking everything was all good. I was going to ask her out some time that night. then she went to get out her wallet out of her purse to pay for her part and fuuuccckkk, I see a pack of cigarettes. instant turn off and shes no longer attractive. anyone have anything like that? no matter how hot the guy or girl is there is one habit or little thing that you cant deal with under any circumstances?

 

Cigarettes is almost always one of them .I fell head over heels for my last girlfriend and she was a light smoker when we first got together. She quit cold turkey within the first couple of weeks of our relationship.

Obviously she wasn't a heavy smoker (when she drank) but people change.

 

for a fuck go for it,
want anything more = deal breaker for me

 

My wife was a social smoker, within several weeks of dating,s he dropped it no problem. Basically her words were something along the lines of, "If I can't kiss you because I smoke, then I will just quit smoking."

If it is worth it to the potential s/o, then they will do what they can to make things work. Smoking is pretty much nasty to me as well.

 

i could never date a smoker, but some of the best lays i've had smoked like a chimney.

as far as dating dealbreaker for me, would have to be motivation/ambition. if all the other things are there (looks, personality, sex, etc), but she is a lazy ass and is content not going to school or working hard for the future, i'll drop her faster than a used rubber.

 

what's with the anti-smoking people ? Never understood it (and I don't smoke)

 

The smell.

 

there isn't that much smell. The only valid issue is when kissing and that's rare if they aren't gutter sluts.

 

there is a lot of smell. it's all over their clothes, in their car, their hair, shit just flat out reeks.

 

This.

 

and the smokers wrinkles in the future.

 

smoker, texting on a date.

 

that can be a huge one. Shows she's not really into you, or just oblivious to the world if it's more than a couple.

 

this is a huge one to me as well. I've actually called girls out on this fault in the past. The first time I told them I'd just take their phone away. Anything after that and the date would be over.

 

Gum smacking.

Actually I can't stand gum chewing in general, but gum smacking is super annoying.

Obvious grammar mistakes (assuming she's a native English speaker. If English is her second language then I'm almost infinitely forgiving of mistakes; English is hard). Aside from obvious errors (such as saying "ain't" or saying "don't" when it should be "doesn't"), a big one that bugs me is improper use of present perfect tense. For example, saying "Should have went" instead of "should have gone," or "should have ate" instead of "should have eaten." I don't know why this is so common, but it drives me nuts. I hear it pretty regularly.

Non-educational debt.

If you're in debt $100k from college, that's awesome.

If you're in debt $5k cuz you can't control yourself from buying 11ty pairs of shoes every week, that's a dealbreaker.

 

A smoker is a big one for me, but I think several things for me are tied. I guess they're all kind of related. Someone who doesn't take care of themselves is a big problem. If he is overweight and out of shape, eats crap all the time, and doesn't exercise and doesn't care, I can't handle that lack of self respect. If he isn't into the outdoors and physical activity, we wouldn't have much to do together. If he lacked motivation, we'd have no future. And dirty nails really bother me...

 

Driving like a rude fuck
Being into idiotic trendy causes like veganism/PETA, anti-vaccination
Being anti-science
No interest in science in general
Lack of ethics
Major is something useless like communications, philosophy, art, English, etc... shows lack of foresight.

 

Agree. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7tt-WIdmCVQ

My sisters ex neighbors always had nice cars, clothes, etc. They were evicted last year, and the new neighbors still receive TONS catalogs from places like Burberry and Saks Fifth Avenue.

 

Everyone hates PETA other than PETA members, but if they're a vegan for health reasons or something (not to say that I agree with the supposed health benefits of veganism, but a lot of people genuinely do), is that so bad?

 

I honestly doubt anyone goes vegan for health reasons. vegitarian, sure.

 

I can respect vegetarians, but vegans can go fuck themselves. Their ideology is illogical. It's impossible to cut out all animal products in your life. The asphalt on the roads? There's cow in it. Even table sugar has animal in it. And what about microscopic animals? You have to kill all kinds of protists to make food and water safe for human consumption. Not to mention the millions animals that are accidentally killed every time grains and vegetables are harvested.

I could go on, but Maddox phrases things better than me.

http://maddox.xmission.com/hatemail.cgi

My parents and grandparents nearly starved to death in Vietnam. They would have given anything for meat. In conclusion, fuck vegans.

 

I'd say this. Shit happens but if one can't have self control then I don't want to deal with them.

 

Yeah I have some family like that. They are usually always asking people for money to to "get back on their feet."

 

How could I forget vegans! I'm about 99% sure i could never date a vegan (even if she cooked meat) and I don't even think I could date a vegetarian.

No offense. To each their own.

I'm sure a vegan wouldn't date a carnivore like me either

In a serious relationship I couldn't date someone who had significantly different religious/political views from me, either. But i think thays pretty normal.

 

Few of mine:

A mommy's boy
No backbone
Anyone that lacks common sense
Lazy, Insecure, Obnoxious know-it-alls
Reckless with money
Doesn't take care of their body