(Sorry, this turned out longer than I expected! It's partly me talking things out for my own understanding, and partly me seeking opinions and other points of view.) To start, I've been doing quite a bit of introspective examination lately with the aim of reducing my stress levels and generally living a happier life. I want to treat myself and those around me better - not that I think I treat anyone badly per se, but I think I can do better and be a better person in general. To this end I thought that if I reduced my stress levels and tempered my reactions, I'd be in a better position for working on my own happiness and my relationships and interactions with others. I get stressed out a lot, and I think I bring the vast majority of it onto myself. At first glance there don't appear to be any target areas in my life where changing something other than myself will improve things: I like my job (including responsibilities, salary, hours and location), I have great working relationships and friendships with my peers and managers where the lines of communication are wide open, the relationship with my SO is stimulating and invigorating (no problems, great communication, my various needs are met), I have hobbies from which I derive joy, and honestly everything in my life is going so swimmingly to the point that I think others get the odd tinge of envy at my good fortune in this regard. I have no complaints. Here's where you're probably thinking, "So what exactly does any of this have to do with anxiety?". Well, I think that part of the reason I have it so good in life is that my standards are high. Possibly too high in some areas. The fears of not meeting these standards and not meeting what I perceive to be the standards of others whose opinions matter to me can and do make me anxious. This causes my skin to flush in a blotchy manner () and me to second-guess myself and act nervously. My confidence levels and self-esteem are affected in the short term and, to a lesser extent, the long term as well. When I realize what's happening - usually right in the middle of it, when the adrenaline is running rampant - I make a conscious effort to calm down, look at the facts of the situation, get any additional information I need, decide whether there are any actions I can take, perform said actions and hence I "get over it" so to speak. However, I would like to prevent this from happening in the first place, and I don't think that my methods for calming down are the most effective; I essentially brute-force it with irrefutable logic ie. simply tell myself to calm down. The anxiety and aftermath take their toll and I end up fatigued. The residual effects can make the next anxious moment worse if it happens within a short timeframe than it would be if the two had a longer period of time between them. I don't know whether there have been long-term residual effects. Once that I realized that I was getting over-anxious in some situations and that this was almost certainly the largest factor in my overall stress levels, I searched online to see if there were techniques for reducing anxiety or decoupling my emotional involvement (reaction?) from the outcome of a situation or my expectations thereof. I don't know whether I searched using the wrong terms, but every single search result focused on medication. I'm not opposed to the idea of medication, but (a) the anxiety is not disabling me in that I still do everything I want to do and I still do what I think is best regardless of whether people's opinions of me will change for the worse or not, and (b) I think my problem is in the way I think and I'm reluctant to jump on the medication bandwagon for something that could be improved by knowledge and effort focused on rewiring my throught processes. So, what do you think about all of this?