Last night I was here in Atlanta minding my own business when I got a text from my boyfriend saying that my ex was at some small concert he was at "drinking alone in the corner and eyein me". Until now I've been on pretty good terms with my ex. Technically, he broke up with me during basic training and since the break up I've talked to him a handful of times about Army stuff. He even asked if he could send me his resume' a couple of weeks ago so that I could look over it and give him input. So basically, we aren't friends but we broke up on good enough terms. So after getting the text from my ex I decided (stupidly) to try and diffuse the situation by texting my ex "Hey, are you at a concert in Valdosta? Just be cool please." Well the next thing I know my boyfriend calls me from outside the venue freaking out asking why I said anything to my ex because my ex immediately went over to him asking "why's your girlfriend texting me about you?" My boyfriend said he just said "I don't know who you are." So my ex pulls out his phone and showed him the message I sent. My boyfriend still just acted like he didn't know who the guy was. So my ex was like "we're cool right man?" and started telling him that he loves him (drunk??) and the whole thing was really awkward. My boyfriend said although the ex was SAYING things like "we're cool" he had a very harsh tone and was being really intrusive into my boyfriend's space. My boyfriend was with like 8 of our friends and my ex was appearently alone. The bf said he thinks that's the only reason he didn't start some kind of fight right there in the bar. A few minutes later the bf texted me saying that my ex had left. I checked my facebook this morning and got a rather drunken/weird message on there: "I'm not sure what what kind of fuck/fuck games you a *bfs name* are playing but I don't fucking like it! Leave me the FUCK out of it. I will not be nice next time!!!!" My ex and I aren't friends on facebook and in fact I didn't even know he had one until I got this message. I have all my shit set to private so I'm actually thinking he might not have known that my bf and I were back together until I sent him that text last night, which may be why he got so upset, :dunno". Either way I feel like he acted like a tool and he had no right to cause a scene. My boyfriend was upset about the situation but says he understands that I have nothing to do with my ex's crazy actions. I'm a little embarrassed that it happened in front of all our friends. Obviously I know sending him a text about it was the wrong way to go about trying to make sure nothing went wrong. Now I just don't know what to do from here. My boyfriend is afraid of seeing my ex around town now because he's not sure what he'll do. That message also doesn't sit well with me. I don't want to make the wrong move again and make things worse, but I sort of want to call the ex and make him explain why he's so angry and try to make him promise to just be civil. I'm also pretty sure my ex has a drinking problem, which was an issue when we were dating. So I don't know if he would have acted this way sober... Ugh, I just don't know... I've never had to deal with this before. Especially from 4 hours away! Any advice on where to go from here? Ignore him/the message? Call and confront him?