As I am quickly approaching middle age I find it very difficult or downright impossible to find an existing friend who is able to hang out or just talk on the phone, etc. I understand that this is the age where careers and family can get in the way but damn - I always initiate the phone calls only to be politely brushed off by something that is going on in in my friends schedule whether it be a work meeting or a needy offspring. The frustration is further fueled by the fact that it is almost impossible to find any new friends at this age. During my college days it was so easy to meet new people almost everyday but since growing old and having a career its been impossible. My everyday schedule consists of waking up going to work, picking up my kids and then doing mundane work like cooking, eating and then OT / sleeping. I've been at my same job for over 5 years at a zero growth company so there are no new employees and most of the people I work with are much older and I cannot identify with them. I am for the most part available, even though I do have kids in tow that I need to look after. I am able to go out and do have free time alone during the days (I do alot of local travel in my job) - but after 4PM I have to watch the kids. With the kind of age,lifestyle, schedule and I doomed to be alone forever???