Generally, here's how I am. I prefer to work through an insecurity on my own... think it out myself. I don't trust insecurities because often when I just take the time to dismantle them, they disappear. So I don't give them credit. Then if that doesn't work I give them credit (i.e., something "real" may actually be bothering me) and get assistance. In the past, every single thought that entered my head came out of my mouth. But experience has taught me that many of the thoughts in my head go away by themselves, don't make a lot of sense after about five minutes, and would only cause a lot of unnecessary trouble in the meantime. It's an adjustment in my own judgment of when something "should" bother me versus when it is a stupid flash of LSE.