I'm still kinda upset over some of the things said in the discrimination post, so I wanted to ask a damn question. In the trans community, if you live your trans life in secret, meaning you transition and no one you currently associate with is aware you were ever FORCED into the box of the wrong gender, then you are said to be living in stealth. It almost seems, as if the most people would rather that only the small number of trans folk fortunate enough to be "passable" transition, and live totally in stealth. The down side to this is the well documented violent or extreme social reactions to associates finding out about the individuals "past". This of course leaves the overwhelming majority of trans people with no way to facilitate an attempt to reach a congruency between their gender and sex, if they are not permitted to transition because they don't make the "get in and out of the restroom free" grade. So question is: Is this what the hell you want... anyone. Do you prefer someone like me open enough to try and foster some understanding? Or am I just unnecessarily making myself an open target for the bigotry and hate of a closed society we delude ourselves into thinking is "free"? Should we T's start wearing some special armbands or something? (If you don't know the difference between sex and gender, http://www.apa.org/topics/transgender.html read a little, please.) Okay, I opened the can. Let's hear it.