do you tolerate mindgames?

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do you tolerate mindgames?

  1. high tolerance

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  2. mid-high tolerance

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  3. mid-low tolerance

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  4. very low tolerance

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  1. glass

    glass New Member

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    if you asked me a year or two ago, my answer would be a flat out 'no'. recently though it's become another obstacle i've gotten accustomed to dealing with. i still have a strong preference for straight shooting, but i think it makes things more interesting, tests your resolve, and can demonstrate value if you can show you know how to deal with them. on the other hand, reliability and honesty is nice. what do you guys think?
     
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  2. Chip Chipperson

    Chip Chipperson New Member

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    people need to stop thinking that girls are "playing games."

    They're being human, and they're being girls
     
  3. What mind games, girls are just being girls and guys are either aware of how they act or they are not. Simple as that.
     
  4. FurryFriend

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    Nothing wrong with mindgames. It usually means she has some interest in you. Otherwise, she won't bother.

    When there's attraction, there's tension. When there's tension, people act inconsistantly (which comes off as being "mind games").

    Just make sure you play it better than her.
     
  5. FloppyCock

    FloppyCock New Member

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    There were no mindgames between my girlfriend and I when we were dating. Mindgames are for insecure people.
     
  6. Normally a girl who is playing games you can see through, at that point you know when to back off and when not to.
     
  7. Takitome

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    I prefer straight shooting. Though I have some patience for mindgames to an extent, it generally just annoys me.
     
  8. Falconer

    Falconer OT Supporter

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    You need to set the tone for what you will tolerate early in a relationship.

    I bought into a chick's mindgames once. Then after a while I had a realization as if Yail himself had entered my brain, and I tried to reverse it. Once I understood what she was doing I was able to outsmart her at it, and she did not like that at all. It was kinda funny :rofl: But the reason she didn't like it was because her paradigm was being forceably changed when I didn't fall for her shit anymore.
     
  9. Falconer

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    True. The two LTRs I've had that were actually with secure women involved no (ok, minimal) mindgames, and even the minimal shit was weeded out in the first month or so.
     
  10. FloppyCock

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    English please.
     
  11. Takitome

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    You made that one up didn't you? :p
     
  12. Nope, he's the master on those.
     
  13. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I can only handle low tolerance males, this is because I am very low tolerance as well. The second a guy starts playing mind games I get annoyed and lose them.
     
  14. antihero

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    is it weird that I have absolutely no idea what you guys are talking about?

    :dunno:

    umm.. can someone give me some examples?
     
  15. FurryFriend

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    You and chick get really friendly in person. Lots of rapport and touching.

    Next day, she pretends she barely knows you.
     
  16. Chip Chipperson

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    see it's that kind of thing that made me make my post above. That's ridiculous.

    If you think a girl is playing mind games, 99% of the time what is really happening is you're putting too much focus on her and all of her actions, and you read way too much into what she is doing. People's moods change every day, and their actions aren't generally determined by an overanalysis of what effect this is having on YOU.

    Yeah, sometimes people do play "games" or whatever the fuck in an insecure way to try to re-establish authority in the relationship, such as when a girl who knows you don't relaly like her that much will make out with you and then stop and be like "ok, i'm done for now"... that is a dumb CONSCIOUS mind game and annoying and you just have to be better at that shit so you can hump her.

    But that sort of thing is being confused with a general "oh my god, we had a great convo yesterday and now she hasn't answered my text message in 34 minutes. she's trying to play up her disinterest to get me more attracted. Man, her and her fucking mingames"
     
  17. lauren

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    everyones gonna say no. isnt that a mind game in and of itself? :mamoru:
     
  18. antihero

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    eh.. it happens. maybe we were both drunk and it was just one of those things, maybe she is embaressed, maybe she doesnt want her friends to know, maybe she is trying to play some hard to get game...

    :dunno: who knows? im just going to do what I want to do anyway.
     
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    That needs a sticky
     
  20. antihero

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    zomg.. you just made me remember one of the funnier threads ive ever seen on ot. Anyone have the "pump fake, motherfucker!" thread saved? :bowdown:

    that = mindgame!
     
  21. Falconer

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    No. I even searched and couldn't find it.
     
  22. StopDrop&LOL

    StopDrop&LOL "Where The Elite Become Champions"

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    damn, i missed this thread

    no, i dont fucken play games. theres a difference between 'being a girl' and 'playing games'

    if i know they are intentionally playing it to get a certain response out of me, my asshole side tends to really come out. i see her actions as immature.

    if its a girl i just met, and we're feeling each other out, i play the game...usually to a better extent, due to my not caring attitude.
     
  23. demosnat

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    I have learned from extensive experience that there is a period of rocky adjustment when a man is with a woman who is a 'straight shooter' even though its what they constantly profess they want.
     
  24. huntz0r

    huntz0r New Member

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    Kinda like how women profess to want nice guys? :mamoru:


    I agree though, I don't like girls who act crass. You may know where they stand, but that's usually because they're standing on your toes.
     
  25. MissKitty

    MissKitty If squats were easy they'd be called 'Your Mum' OT Supporter

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    Nope and I pon't play them either. Happily taken :p
     

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